im so sick of it?

Question

im so sick of my mom she is always gone and when shes home she locks her door and watches t.v. and i'm stuck taking care of my brothers and the house every time i try to tell her its not my job to take care of her kids just cause her and my dad want to party she yells at me or threatens to hit me or kill me and then ten mintues later she comes in and try to act like it never happened she has never hit me but she has hit my brother with her hand and a belt but just once and then she bought him all this stuff to make up for it and my dad is always gone ethier at work or playing in his band and thinks buyin stuff will make up for it sorry if it sounds like wihning but im just so sick of it and i dont have any one else to tell

im 15 and ive benn doing this sence i was 8 not satying home alone or anything but cleaning and watching them while she was still here and once my brother almost got hit by a car cause he went outside by him self we she was home and i got grounded because i was soupsed to be watching him and thanks for your help so far

oh i for got she tells us she hate us almost every day and you know how i said i clean the house when people come over she'll tell them she did it and she tell us its our fault that she stuck with this life just cause she got pergeant with my sister before she was married

Answer 1

Honestly, I think you are in need of help, and you need to contact child protective services in your area. Hitting a child, especially with a belt, is considered child abuse. That is a crime, and it is taken very seriously. Also, it is abuse every time your mother threatens to kill you or hit you. In fact, threatening to kill anyone is a VERY serious crime.
If you live in the US, try callig 1800-4-A-CHILD. It is a hotline with counselors that can give you advice on what to do. You also need to talk to your teachers, guidance counselors, etc, to tell them what is going on. You shouldn't be suffering from all this abuse, and child protective services will make sure that your parents stop doing it.

Answer 2

You have what is called a disfunctional familly. If you want to get dirty, you can go see the child welfare people, but that will likely result in all of you young ones being placed in foster homes. Or you could accept he resposibility of caring for your siblings and protecting them from your parents. Its a tough choice, I suggest you seek help, If you confide in your favorite teacher, be careful about mentioning "hitting" some people go right off the dep end when they hear children say that Mom or Dad hits them. I'm not saying don't ell, but I strongly advise that you don't say anything that isn't absolutely true.

Answer 3

my mom is kind of like that. not that extreme, but i know how you feel. do you have any grandparents that can watch you brothers? depending on how old you are maybe you can move out and stay with another relative( i'm actually planning on moving in with my dad when he gets back to CA for basically the same reason) but then you probably don't want to to leave your brothers alone. just stick up for yourself and tell her that you are not the mom and you should not have to play "mom" and take care of everything just because she is bad at it. yes this will make her mad and she may threaten to hit you, she may even hit you, but she will think about what you said and it will sink in, even if she denies it all and gets furious. trust me she will calm down later and seriously think about what you said.

Answer 4

Call your "Children's Aid Society". I hope that is what it is called where you live. This is the appropriate service in Canada, anyhow.

If you aren't in Canada, you can call "information" (i.e., 411) and ask for either the "Children's Aid Society" or "Child Welfare". You can try the phone book too. You can also call a kid's help line (they should be located at the front of either your yellow pages or white pages, near the police and fire numbers). You can ask them who you can call for help. They have all kinds of references at their disposal. Ask them about a Child Services agency like the Children's Aid Society.

When you actually make the call, ask to speak to someone about a problem you're having at home. You may be assigned a worker and your family will get the help you all need to function together in a healthy manner.

What a burden for you to carry. I got chills when I read your message. You are soooo stong, not to mention, conscientious for reaching out for help.

Answer 5

dear lara...
every family is a disfunctional family...
it's how you work it out that matters....

in terms of your parents, they are just being selfish and irresponsible...
being a father myself, i make sure that at least i MAKE time for my family over the weekend...
on weekdays, me and my wife work our a$$es off to make ends meet and therefore the weekend is off limits for work...

no meeting, no clients, no NOTHING! just family...

you were just like my wife when she was your age...
same scenario, every bit...
since the responsibility has been 'passed' down to you, and they don't give a cupcake about it, then it's time for you to take charge...
mold your siblings into responsible individual and bring out the best in them and yourself...
no point sulking about it as your parents won't change or do anything about it...

take life by the hand and seize the day...
i wish you all the best in handling this situation maturely and god willing, you'll make it thru life with an angel by your side...

take care
(^_^)

Answer 6

Talk to your school counselor. You shouldnt have to be doing her job all the time and taking abuse for it. But be warned, if child services steps in they could end up removing you or your siblings from the home.

Answer 7

My dear lara
i know its so hard ..
It will be painful psychologically if u take it like that
i know u feel no good .. but u dont know what inside ur mother heart .. maybe she Preparing u to be a mother .. maybe
just take it as this is ur son not ur brother ,, and u in ur own home not ur parnts home
Imagine u r in your kingdom . ur home ..
and also try to talk to ur mother and make here as ur friend maybe something bothering here ,, and one more time u dont know what inside her heart ..
and in at last,, No mother hates her daughter

My Warm Regards

Answer 8

I suggest you start hanging out at a friend more often, be a bad babysitter - unavailable...etc.
If you're trapped then just plan your career and adulthood, and be more of a friend to your brothers, instead of a "mom" type. Time will pass faster...

Answer 9

Is there anyone at school that you can go to-- a teacher, a counselor. It sounds as if your mother is abusive, and you should not have to put up with that behavior. Please get help from an adult. You're not whining, and you have full right to be angry and hurt and confused. This behavior is not normal, and it is not right.

Answer 10

OK, seriously... if what you are saying is true you need to get some help. not just for you but for your brothers and sisters. you should tell your guidance counselor at school or someone like that.