Should i ask my close friend out?

Question

I met this girl in my freshmen year of high school and she was a sophmore. Now i'm a sophmore and she's a junior, she's one year older than me. We've been good friends since then and i feel that there was always a connection between us, something more than friends. I asked her out in my freshmen year and she said no, a year later, i found out that she did like me back then, but she didnt want to be in a relationship. Now, more than ever, i'm aware of this "more than friends" connection between us. I think she feels it too. We're good friends and i dont know if i should ask her out. I'm afraid that if she says no, its screw a lotta things. What should i do?

Answer 1

If you are a true man you will go get your girl. Many girls can be afraid of boys (like what kind of emotional pains they may cause, not literally afraid). But do not pressure it to much, cause it might make the relationship that you already have fail. Just follow your heart, and make sure that she is not in love with someone else.

Answer 2

Well, I can answer this question from an empathetic point of view. I met my friend in college in a poetry class that we both had together. We both admired eachother's work and eventually after the semester had come to an end, we both had to go our seperate ways. We kept in touch through phone and he kind of wore his heart on his sleeve so it was very difficult to be around him without him constanly flirting and making passes at me. He would always want to give me a massage and do a bunch or romantic things with me like we really were in a relationship. He would make subtle comments like " Have you ever thought about me as more than a friend?" I would always say "No, were better friends". Anyway, we got a little tipsy off that Henn Doggy Dog, and ended up having sex. After that night, things changed completely and he wanted a relationship, I wanted to move on and remain friends. He totally clung to me and it was hard to just be friends again, without him getting jealous every time I didn't answer his calls or told him that I was out with someone else. We started arguing alot and he hung up on me a few times out of anger. We have remained friends since, but things aren't what they were, before we had sex. I'm telling you the truth, sex changes things; someone always wants to take it to the next level and gets attatched, whether they tell you or not and it's hard to go back to just being friends again. If she says she's not interested, let it go. It's not worth putting your friendship on the line. If she's feeling what you are, or you think that she is, maybe you should verbally address the issue and the worst she can say is "Sorry, you must have misread me" or "Yeah, let's give it a try and see what happens". Just make sure you really want to go there. It will be difficult to get back exactly what you have now, especially if it gets physical. Take care and remember that God is love! : )

Answer 3

The same thing happened with me and my husband. He asked me out and I said no, but we remained friends even when i moved 1700 miles away. It's all about timing. he asked me 4 years later and i said yes and now we're married.
you'll know when the right time is. and don't worry- it won't screw anything up if you guys are that close.

Answer 4

i am sure you guys feel this connection but she probably dosent want to ruin your relationship,even though you dont feel the same.I would probably just try and talk to her face to face and tell her how u really feel about ur friendship and ask her some things too.if this is to hard to do face to face just im.hope i helped!!
and best of luck!!

Answer 5

Ask her how she would feel about you guys going out on a date...then take it from there

Answer 6

well this is a risky decsion, say yes and gain alot, say no and possibly loose it all?

you might be friend zoned, but do what your heart desires

Answer 7

do it