my boyfriend is the kind that just grabs you and starts doing things to you, sometimes that's good, but others it's like 'slow down a bit' so i have to tell him to stop. it feels really really bad, because he never knows if i am ready or not. a couple of times it felt like rape, just because he doesn't know when is a bad time. what should i do?
2007-02-15 12:04:58 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i used the word 'rape' because he held me down and entered me when i didn't want him to, he stopped when i started crying and said that he was sorry he did that. he felt like he'd raped me too but he said he couldn't guarentee he wouldn't try that again.
2007-02-15 12:24:57 · update #1
i do actually tell him. he just does it the same way.
2007-02-15 12:26:10 · update #2
Tell him how you feel and to take it slow with you. It sounds like he is selfish in bed and only cares about pleasing himself. If he is being rough and it feels like rape then that is all wrong. Don't put up with this, he is disrespecting you and your feelings.
2007-02-15 12:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he forces you to have with him then that is considered . If you are saying no and he still forces you to have then he is not a very good boyfriend and you need to break up him. Having when your not ready can harm you emotionally and physically. You should wait until you are ready. (I would wait till I was married but that is just what I believe in)
2007-02-15 20:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by dogtreats100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U must talk with him...Many gays like me have no idea about women... and the best teacher is u...
Also don't use improper language 'rape'... have been raped?
Never accused ur bf for such wrong... u can use many different words.. 'i was not ready' this can express u well...
2007-02-15 20:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a easy Way out,drop hem,he don't respect you,he never will,he is not even a real Man,real Man protect Woman,not hurt them,Good Luck,Karl
2007-02-15 22:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by karl s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your mouth & communicate with him. Tell him what you like/dislike. Why do people find talking so damn hard?
2007-02-15 20:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him when you are not in the mood that would solve a lot of his problems
2007-02-15 20:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by billc4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋