I am new to the dating scene... single, 42, no kids left at home.
I need help with the whole process... where do I meet guys, who calls who, who pays for what? what about sex -- when, where, etc... Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!! Also, what about guys my age all having baggage? How do I deal with that?
2007-02-15 12:01:05 · 6 answers · asked by tammette39 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you can always try going for younger guys. There are a bunch of guys in their 20's and 30's that would love to date an older woman:)
2007-02-15 12:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I've been there. I actually started dating again at 45 when my husband died. That was 5 years ago and I'm still out there.
I've learned a lot of stuff through trial and error. Mostly error at first. Don't rush into anything. Get to know the man, or men, you go out with. Don't worry if they don't call you back. The ones who don't aren't worth your time and they're probably not right for you anyway.
For dates, I would start with your friends. Ask them if they know anyone they could fix you up with. But be prepared for the worst possible dates in your life!
I actually met my current boyfriend online. Turns out I already knew him through mutual friends who thought we would never get along. We had a good laugh when we found out we already knew each other. Our friends were shocked though. We've been together for a year now.
As for paying: sometimes I pay, sometimes he does. Sometimes I offer and he says he's got it. It depends on the guy and the situation. At first I would offer to pay for your part of the date.
Try to avoid going out with co-workers. Job related romances are a drag. The guys you work with may be great guys, but if there is ever a fight between the two it could carry into the work place. That's never good.
Everyone has a little baggage, no matter how old or young they are. The trick is knowing where to store it! Still haven't completely figured that out, I'm working on it though!
As for sex. You're way too new at this to worry about that now. When it happens, if it happens, go with it. But make sure it's with someone you want to spend time with. Don't do it on the first date!
Good luck!
2007-02-15 20:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to meet guys go to places that intrest you. becuase there you will find guys with the same intrests as you. dont play games like you did when you were younger ; example: oh ill just wait for him to call. you have to be bold with him an call him; you make moves. dont expect the man to do everything. show him wat you want , you dont have time to just have fun. and just cuz ur older the sex shouldnt change. after a couple dates when your both ready for that stage in your relationship ;get freakkkky. and about the baggage that is just something you will have to deal with. maybe look for guys with "less baggage". =)
2007-02-15 20:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl calm down.geeeeze! relax and have fun girl! pleeeaazzze, I'm 42, single, no kids and loving it! girl, i am having so much fun. i am testing the waters and meeting new, fun, and exciting men.younger ones too girl. anyway, just relax and have fun. it will all work out. and as far as baggage, at our age somebody gonna have baggage and it is not always bad.
2007-02-15 22:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by ~Secretrose~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dating guys in late 40's to early 50's. They usually are established in their careers have older children and finally get how to please a woman. My friend married a 55 year old and she is 38 and couldn't be happier. If he asks you out let him pay. If you ask him you pay, if he has baggage don't date him. Good luck.
2007-02-15 20:08:33 · answer #5 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a lil akward at first but it will all come back to you
2007-02-15 20:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋