Is my perception on how most parents see their kids right?

Question

I'm 15, maybe I'm wrong, but according to my perception most parents don't really care about their kids happiness and feelings, they just want their kids to behave how they (parents) want. So, when most parents punish their kids they are not really worried about their kids best, don't mind how they feel, they just want to impose authority and make kids believe in a way they consider proper.Most parents want to be proud of their kids, but don't care if their kids are happy or emotionally stable. Most parents don't worry if they hurt their kids feelings. This is my perception, is it right?

Oh, I mean, make kids BEHAVE, not belive

Answer 1

You are dead wrong. We, as parents, feel the need to teach you to grow into dependable, trustworthy, well-adjusted adults. It's not always fun for us either.

Answer 2

You're totally wrong! Parents want what's best for their children, and that means doing what's right and not what feels right. If you need to be punished, then you just need to be punished. Sounds to me like you're a kid with behavioral issues and you're in trouble alot. Your parents make rules and you break them, yet don't want to suffer the consequences and make it seem like they don't care about your happiness. Parents have the hardest job in the world, which is to try and raise a productive, respectable and decent person from a blank pallet. You'll understand when you have kids. If all you worry about is their happiness, then you'll raise a Jeffrey Dahmar or Charles Manson. Read into their childhoods and do some research. Neither had any discipline. What the hell happened as an end result? Some of the craziest people to walk this earth. Think their parents wouldn't trade their childrens' happiness for some rules and guidelines now?

Answer 3

unfortunately, that is life and your perception is not right. At 15 your parents are the authority. If you were my kid and did something wrong and I had to punish you I frankly wouldn't care if your feeling were hurt you did something wrong and should pay the consequences, just like you would if you were an adult. That is how kids learn responsibility and become responsible adults. Just to clarify I'm not talking about a beating, I'm talking grounding. I hate to say this but you will understand when you are raising a 15 year old. By the way parents are legally responsible for you until you are 18 they have every right to impose their authority on you.

Answer 4

I think you are wrong. As a parent, I want my children to be happy, productive, honorable, moral, caring citizens. I want them to have high self-esteem and believe that they can do anything. I want to nurture their creativity and encourage them in their interests. All that said, yes, I do want them to behave as well, because my responsibilities as a parent, not only include what I wish for them as listed above, but I need to protect them, feed them and provide the basics. If they misbehave, then it makes it all the harder to do that. Punishment, Consequences, Discipline, it hurts, that's the whole point of it....otherwise we would call it Treats or something. However, there are ways to do it without being HURTFUL or HATEFUL. I believe a lot of parents do what they grew up with, and sometimes they don't realize that you can punish or disciplie without name calling and degrading your child. There is a HUGE difference, but I hear parents call their kids names and I hear them degrading them, and I believe those parents THINK they are doing the right thing, they just don't know any better.

For Example: Let's say my 16 year old stepson is in charge of his younger siblings, and he doesn't supervise them close enough, and they get a hold of my china and break a few pieces. Some parents (the one's who are hurtful) will yell at stepson, call him a few names like dummy and stupid, and then say something like, "you never think, you are never going to amount to anything at this rate." OK, that's hateful and degrading.

I would handle it by expressing how disappointed I was and asking if stepson thinks there would have been a better way to handle the babysitting. Then I would probably take his computer away for the rest of the day as punishment (since he was probably on the computer instead of monitoring his siblings) and I might even make all three kids save up some money to help replace the china.

Answer 5

In the way you preceive how Parents, treat their Kids, is in some instances right, but in another way no, Why? because I have seen Parents who care a lot for their kids Happiness, and when they are sick or had an unfortunate accident it hurts them to no end. I am such a Parent, I raised seven kids who all are Married and Family of their own. My kids were never left alone, or were never denied their necesities when they were growing up,also they each had mine and my Husband's, love and comprehension, they all finished their Schooling and attended our community college where they earned their degrees, two of my girls decided to further their careers in the University. But getting back to your question, I have seen Parents, who do not care for their kids feelings or if they are doing good in School, or even if they each had something to eat when they get home from School, they are even left alone at night so, those Parents can go out and have fun by themselves, that is when my heart aches for such kids and usually I always call the authorities to come and pick up those kids because some of them are not even two yrs. old. Yes, I believe that there should be rules for the kids to follow, and if they do something that they shouldn't have a good talking to is more than enough for them, but I might add kids should always be told that they are Loved and if you scold them they should be told that it is for their own good.I hope this has anwered your question and if you have a problem with your parents you can email me through Yahoo, I care. For a fifteen yr. old you are good in specifying your question.

Answer 6

All loving parents care about the kids' feelings and want them to grow up to be happy, well-adjusted adults. Good parents put the importance of long-term happiness and success above the importance of how a kid feels at the moment.

When punishing our children, we know that the they won't always understand simply because the maturity level and life experience is not there yet.

Yes, we do discipline our kids' to get them to behave in a manner that we believe is proper and we also know that it hurts our kids' feelings in the short run. In the long run, however, we know that our kids will be better off for it.

Yes, we do want to be proud of our kids and we know that sometimes along the way, that will require discipline. As you get older and more mature, however punishment (discipline) gives way to "self-discipline" as you are now able to control your own actions and also understand the necessity of it. Parental discipline is no longer necessary.

Answer 7

I think that, to some degree, you're right. Most parents only want whats best for their kids, so when they punish them, they don't take into consideration how their kids feel on the subject. But thats the way its supposed to be. Punishment wouldn't correct and unwanted behavior if the kid was happy with being punished. So its not that yur parents don't care that you're happy, its just that they're trying to do what they feel is best for you so sometimes a childs happiness gets overlooked. Just be grateful that your parents care for you. It'll do you a lot of good in the long run. I would like to say also that I can compleetly understand how it sometimes feels like they're just trying to make you miserable, particularly when you're in trouble and you're mad at them, I know from experience, I'm only 16 myself.

Answer 8

maybe some are like that but most parents I know just want their children to choose the right path so they try and create rules when children are small,so that when they are older they have impulse control because rules and boundaries have been set.I do care how my chidren feel when I discipline them but I am the parent and by living my life I know what the outcome of certain situations are.I know that kids hate to hear( I know and I have been where you are) but its true.We don't say those things to be in authority we just don't want you to hurt the way we did and in certain situations we know its coming.Parenting is the hardest job in the world because we do care what impact every single decision is making on our child its a heavy burden to carry when you really want your child to grow into a mentally,emotionally stable,responsible adult.Its tough and we are not perfect and sometimes we know whats best so kids should be a little more appreciative when they have parents who care rather than parents who could care less.

Answer 9

Well your perception was the same as mine when I was your age.But when I had a kid I realized I was way off base.I can tell u that your parent is wiser and is looking out for your best intrerest.And that they do love u very much even if u can't see it right now.But none of this will matter.You won't see it until u have one of your own. So u need to trust your parents and beleive what they are doing is because they love u and want whats best for u.Remember this.When u have your own remember what someone said to u online.Good luck

Answer 10

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I'm a teen 2 and I totally know how you feel. But look at it from their point of veiw, they just want whats best for you, cuz if they didn't punish you then you would totally be wild!! Even though you probably don't want to hear this...Again...but they really do love you and they really do just want whats best for you and your future. Maybe you should talk to them about giving you a little more freedom, just explain that you think your on too tight of a leash and you need some breathing space. If that doesn't work, tell them that you will improve your grades and stuff if they lett you have mor freedom. It's all about comprimise.
Good luck
xoxo

Answer 11

You're wrong most parents just want what is best for their child even if the child thinks it is wrong. They try to raise kids to be independent well adjusted, and good citizens of the community and have good values i HATE having to get on to or punish kids it isn't fun for us all the time either.