I have been seeing this guy for about 6 months now and things are getting serious. I think he is the sweetest and most thoughtful guy I have ever meet. Sounds good right?? The problem is, when we kiss I don't feel the passion I want to feel. I know this sounds gross, but it's like kissing my brother. I don't miss him when he is gone or don't even feel any affection towards him. I am really confused. I already told him I loved him and I want to break his heart! What shall I do?
2007-02-15 11:22:32 · 21 answers · asked by Liberal City 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
**I meant to say I dont want to break his heart!!
2007-02-15 11:32:20 · update #1
Stop saying you love him! You are only going to hurt him and YOURSELF in the end. Just because someone is wonderful doesn't mean we have to fall in love with them. He might be a great guy but not a great guy for YOU. Spare him the pain and don't lead him on. Wait for someone that makes you feel the way you want to.
2007-02-15 11:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by Jadie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heya there!
I think you definitely dont love this guy....
If you feel like kissing yr brother then maybe you care about him but only like a brother...
Just have a chat with him...
Be sincere and tell him what you feel ...i mean tell him that the relationship that youve got with him is not what you want and tell him that you feel really sorry and tell him that what you said about loving him is not true , you just thought you loved him because you dont really know what love is...
Dont think about other people first, think about yrself first!
You shouldnt make yrself unhappy because you cant pretend that you love him and is no point in continuing the relationship...
tell him that deserves someone that will really love him and i also think that you should love someone in a relationship and to be loved back...
Be sincere!
Dont continue this!
Love is something special that happens between 2 persons!
I hope u will find someone to love and to be loved back!
Best wishes!
2007-02-15 11:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by Neacsu v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister it is plain too see that you are not in love with this guy and you need to tell him before he gets deeper into this relationship that is built on lies. if kissing him is like kissing your brother than there is a problem. you need to sit down with him and let him know that it is not him,but there is no chemistry between the two of you. here is one thing you have to look at he may be hurt,but it is better to tell him now than later because a root of bitterness will set in and depending on how many times he has been hurt the young man may run around hurting other women just because you were not honest. one thing i know is that hurt people hurt others. the right thing to do is tell him the truth and let him down as easy as you can and maybe there is a chance that you all can still be freinds.
antwaune
2007-02-15 11:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by antwaune w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u want to break his heart??? well arent u the greatest she-***** that ever lived, admitting that u want to hurt another person, but then again, thats women nowadays...-shrugs-
*edit* yea i knoe, i just wanted to see how long it would take u to correct it, id say ur not in love with him, maybe its in like, but not love. And another thing, u look younger in ur pic, dont think that ur next relationship will be the big finale. u have many years ahead, ur knoeledge about urself and whut u want will come clear. Id say move on, everyone has a partner out there somewhere, its all a matter of when.
2007-02-15 11:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by * r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you imagine yourself having an intimate relationship with him or not? If you like this relationship without the passion and intimacy chances are you only want him to be there for you as a friend. You have 2 options. Either to give this relationship some more time until you figure out what you truly feel or to be honest with your feelings and be frank with him. He will surely be hurt but that's part of dating and relationships.
2007-02-15 11:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you are not in love. If you were in love, when you kiss him the sparks in your head would fly or something like that. You have to tell him you don't want to see him any longer, or you will be unhappy until you finally get the guts, or he breaks up with you, which doesn't sound like its happening too soon. You have to tell him, but don't be mean about it.
Good luck =]
2007-02-15 11:26:58 · answer #6 · answered by Mollster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might love him...but you are not in love. He is too nice. He is too easy. You like that chase and he does not give you that. Deep inside you want that bad boy. Give him the," I just want to be friends line". It's true he can not and will not make you hot. Your going to have to be a heart breaker for now. Who knows he may start dating someone else and you might like the fight to get him back. Your a pretty girl. You will get yours in the end. Right!!!
2007-02-15 11:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by ~ tina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you're in love with him- but if you breakup my guess is that you'll really miss him, even though now you think you wont- maybe you should spend sometime apart and make sure there isnt someone else that you could really feel a connection with` a connection thats not sister to brother!
2007-02-15 11:27:43 · answer #8 · answered by Miss_Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you aren't in love break up with him you dont have any feelings 4 him that you feel when you really like someone or even love so dont hurt yourself and him by not doing what you feel
2007-02-15 11:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by babygirlknowhowtodo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the passion is not there anymore, then maybe you should talk to him about it. If you're starting to feel these things, you really should talk to him and tell him.
2007-02-15 11:26:38 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋