should i or should i not?!......?

Question

ok me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 6 months, and im 15 and hes 16, we are both virgins and i know that he wants to have s.e.x. cuz the comment he said to my friend today, and she told me about it, but he seems to think that i am scared to have s.e.x. i mean im a lil scared, but not like he seems to think, and i am a lil nervous, i mean he can't lie to me and tell me that he's not just a lil bit nervous, i mean everyone usually is b4 they loose their v-card right?! but i dont know if i should have s.e.x. w/ him or not! i mean i think im ready, well im begining to believe that i am ready, but i kinda feel like if i dont have s.e.x. w/ him sometime soon, then its gonna be over, and he's my FIRST LOVE AND I LOVE HIM MORE THAN NETHING AND NEONE IN THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD!!! and i DON'T wanna loose him over something stupid like this!!!!! so should i go ahead and talk to him about having s.e.x. and just go ahead and do it, or not?!

Answer 1

if he uses the sex thing as a turning point in your relationship , then he is not your type.

Answer 2

Okay, first of all. You should talk to him about it first.
Part of doing it for the first time is to make each other as comfortable as possible. If one of you isn't sure or uncomfortable then don't do it! you have to be absolutely sure. It's normal to be nervous or excited or a little scared but you shouldn't have any doubts. This is one thing that you don't want to regret.
If you think you're going to lose your boyfriend over sex then let him go. It's one aspect of a relationship and shouldn't define it. Being scared of losing your boyfriend is not a reason to have sex.
He's talking to your friends to see what your thoughts are so he obviously doesn't want you to feel pressured. 15 is probably a bit young to be having sex but it's good that you are thinking about it first before just doing it, maybe you should wait another six months or a year.
Talk to your boyfriend about it, tell him what you think and feel and if after that your not ready then wait. There's no rush. You have your whole life to have sex.

Answer 3

Whoa... sweetie, you're only 15! I say don't do it... just from reading that whole thing i could tell that you don't really know if you want to right? "I think i'm ready" that just means "NOO i'm not ready!" you'll have plenty of years ahead of you that you can have sex, right now i think any relationship you're in should be just for fun because of how young you are. If your boyfriend (who of course is scared!) decides that he doesn't want to be with you anymore becuase you won't sleep with him, than you might wanna think twice about how much you love him becuause that clearly doesn't show true love from his side of the relationship. I know that this is waaay down the road for you but think about when you get married and you've slept with 5 other guys before your husband, that's nothing special then is it? He'd just be another to add to your list and that's not fair to him. You don't need sex to keep a dating relationship.

Answer 4

If you are still asking yourself if you are ready or not, then you are not ready. If he still is a virgin, and cares about you then he won't mind waiting till you know you are ready. I know six months seems like a long time, but think of it compared to the rest of your life (years).
Ask him what he meant about the comment he made to your friend. You never know, he might have just been saying that to make her/ him think you guys are going to. Then let him know that you are not ready for it. Just be open and honest with him. Like I said, if he really does care about you he will wait until you are 100% sure about doing it.


P.S. I think 15 is WAY too young. But, that might be because I have a niece your age.

Answer 5

I really don't think that you are ready to make that commitment to him or yourself right now because of all of the questions. I think that you should sit and talk with him and let him know how you feel about it. If he truly loves you and wants to be with you then it will all work out. Please don't let him or anyone else pressure you into doing something you might regret later. I was 16 when I lost mine and now I wish I would have waited because now I can tell you I wasn't ready for what came with it. I didn't get pg. but other pressure is what I am talking about. Please look into yourself and see if you are ready for something like that or not.

Answer 6

Sweety if he cant respect the fact that youre not ready then he doesnt really love you, and you shouldnt have sex if youre not ready, especially if youre just having it because you think youre going to lose him. There will be other guys, you might not think that right now but honey let me tell you there will be other guys and you will fall in love with them. Dont give your cookies up just because some little honry boy doesnt wanna wait. Wait until youre ready otherwise later on you will reget it.

Answer 7

talk to him about it! if he loves you then he will wait till you are completly sure! dont feel pressured! you shouldnt have to have sex with your bf to keep them around! i mean everyone is nervous about it the 1st time thro! but you will end up regretting it in the end! my ex bf says" just hold off a little bit because 6 months isnt that much time, if hes ur 1st love and hes not gunna tell you that hes nervous then just wait a little bit and see what he does, as soon as you do it with him theres a possiblity he might leave because even tho 6 months is a while he might just be in it for sex. ive had friends that broke up after a year because they were only in it for sex."

Answer 8

obviously u REALLY luv him but i wouldn't. if you 2 ever break up after u do "THAT" u'll have that to follow u the rest of u'r life.

hey i've been in the EXACT same boat. REALLY strong relationship, he waz a 16 y/o 2!

but that's u'r decision. & actually ive heard that it makes the relationship sorse! don't know if thats true though!

think of it this way

u can look back at what u'v gone through 2gether,
& if u break up that will give u memories.

don't know bout u but, that would b very emotionaly painful 2 me!

but thats u'r decision. & actually ive actually heard that it makes the relationship worse! don't know if thats true though!

if u really want 2 i'd wait a while, doesn't seem like u'r COMPLETELY ready.

Answer 9

If you "lose him" because he you won't have sex with him, then good riddance. If he cares about you as a person, he will understand if you want to wait. Personally, I think 15 is too young to be having sex anyway, but if you want to do it, you're gonna do it, and I don't think asking about this is going to change your mind. Maybe you should talk to your mom, or think about the consequences of having sex before you try anything.

Answer 10

im the same age as you most of my friends arent virgins anymore and regret it, even though youve been waiting for awhile and ou have been dateing, dont have sex yet, it can cause problems. if hes waitong on you to do it, then dont bother. do you feel like you really love him and its not just a stupid crush? loving someone means not being able to live without them?

Answer 11

dont freaking do it.

if you love him, you can wait till you're married.

besides if your relationship didnt work out over HIM
not respecting YOUR personal decision,
he needs to grow up and learn
how to love without making love.

dont take the chance to
a] get pregnant.
b] lose your virginity to somebody you have no idea if youre to marry them.
c]do something youll regret.

darling, people change SO MUCH for 16 to 21.
hang it there!