My bf of 30 and myself 26 got into our 1st fight last weekend. We have been dating seriously for 7 mos. He and I only see each other on weekends b/c he works 2 jobs and lives an hr. away. He always used to call me everynite for the most part and initiate emails 2 me everyday at work. The day after our fight he told me he wanted to spend the day alone. I respected that and sincerely apologized for what I knew I did wrong. We have talked on the phone and have had normal conversations since then & haven't brought up the fight again. The only difference and what is bothering me is that I feel he is playing games with me now. He has not initiated any emails to me this week or phone calls. I have been the one calling him & emailing him. He did send me flowers on V-day. He has not asked me if I wanna do anything this weekend yet & I don't wanna ask him cause last weekend he said he needed space. Why is he not calling me and emailing me like he used to? Is he insecure? I am so worried.
2007-02-15 11:11:09 · 5 answers · asked by Cutie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Call him and ask him whats going on in his head.
If you've been dating for 7months you have a right to know why theres a sudden crash from his side.
2007-02-15 11:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by crymsyneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I think. Up til now your relationship has been all sweetness and light. The reality is in any relationship is that you are going to have arguments and disagreements. He is probably wondering what happened to his little sweetheart who never causes any problem and is always fun. In order to continue with an adult relationship (and I don't mean sex, but in a continuing growth cycle for the two of you), you are going to have to be the one right now to be assertive and let him know that you care and want to go out with him. So, just call and invite him for dinner and a movie. Women today do not have to wait by the phone, you can call and ask him out.
2007-02-15 19:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me tell you friend and her boyfriend have been fighting since day 1. HE going through a stage just give him some space and he come back!
2007-02-15 19:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmm . . . . did he used to initiate everyhting like plans and stuff? . . . if he did maybe he just wants you to do some things in return like u call him sometimes instead of him always doing it. . . . tell him you guys are going to do something thing this weekend see what he does. . . hope everyhting works out .
2007-02-15 19:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by Mickster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys gotta talk. Take the initiative and show him you care. Drive to his place, cook him dinner.
Before he seems to be doing alot of work. Maybe he doesn't feel appreciated.
2007-02-15 19:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋