I proposed to a woman I truly loved last month, but she rejected the proposal. I am devastated, but most of all I would like to let go now. Only she says she still has feelings for me and wants to be friends. She calls me 2x times a week and emails me at work. Her tone is always light and cheerful, she doesn't realize that each time she calls or emails my pain gets worse. Why do ex-girlfriends insist on calling and staying friends. Whats in it for them, I really like to know.
2007-02-15 11:05:08 · 26 answers · asked by tenno1234 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you haven't put your foot down to her that you don't want her contacting you anymore. She has already rejected your proposal so if you tell her straight out how you felt about her and how you feel now. What's the worse that can happen, she leave you? My ex husband was the same way after we divorced which we both agreed on but he then wanted to be friends and called and followed me everywhere. I think its their way to still try to control you. You just have to tell her straight out maybe a couple of times before she gets the message if that's what you really want.
2007-02-15 11:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There probably had a fun time being with you , but just doesnt love you enough to be married with you, and just dont wanna loose you as a friend. Tell her that you still have feelings for her and that everytime you talk to her your pain gets worse . And just see what she says.. you have to talk to her about it.. and if she wants to get back together and your not sure you want to just say that you dont wanna take the chance of getting your heart broken again
2007-02-15 11:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by ; р я ε т т ч <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's tremendously irrelevant on your husband and his ex to be emailing and calling one yet another! they're the two newly married or maybe whether that's harmless, this opens the door for temptation. Your husband desires to love and appreciate you and if he does, he will positioned a supply as much as this immediatly. tell him it hurts that he's retaining secrets and techniques from you and ask him the way it might like it, in case you have been emailing and calling your previous boyfriend. attempt to realize this without yelling, or getting overly emotional. in case you attitude him gently and without anger or sounding accusatory, he would be greater open to listening. additionally, elect some time to speak wisely. do no longer attitude him whilst he first comes abode for artwork. that's greater effective to attend till he's unquestionably rested and in a physically powerful temper. good luck to you!
2016-12-17 10:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because she is worried about you and wants to make sure your okay, plus she does still have feelings for you, maybe she is changing her mind. If you can't deal with the relationship anymore then tell her it's hurting you and let her go or just hang the phone up on her. Then she will understand.
2007-02-15 11:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she misses your friendship but you need to let her know the pain you are going through and it is best for now not to speak till your feelings are not there and you can learn how to just be friends and maybe it will never be like that and you will have to part from her forever and just wish her the best. She made the decision not to be with you so she shouldn't have a problem with what you need to do now.
2007-02-15 11:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by abbs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to understand what is on her mind. l was in a relationship with a lady for 8 yrs. she wanted marriage and I was content with just living together. We split she still calls me about fund raisers with her kids that I just love like my own. Car needs repair, house needs repairs, cooks me a great meal, no sex! and I leave. She has said she has met someone, but still calls me.
2014-09-29 04:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by sugarbear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that it could happen again. or the fact that they still want to be your friend because you were good to them! i dont see why guys make a big deal about it! you loved someone and they are willing to give you another chance in a different form and you guys just turn it down! yes the pain gets worse. tell her! tell her to stop for a while so that you can cope and get over it... although shell always be there its better for you to try and get over her than for her to still be there!
2007-02-15 11:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by hunny_boo_boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok
well to start with yr ex is still calling you because i think she still cares about you...
she is really confused....
she got used to you and she is missing you....she wants to make sure that you are ok even if she was the person to hurt you ....i think that you should apreciate that she was honest to you...
i know how much it hurts....
maybe she still loves you but doesnt realise how it is to lose you because she is still intouch with you...
i think you should have a chat with her and ask her what exactly are her feelings for you....
its also lack of details...you didnt say how much you have been going out....you didnt say if she loves you...
you didnt say why you split up....
i really think that either she still cares lots about u but doesnt have the courage to do something....either she is feeling really lonely now that you are not next to her and maybe she wants someone to care for her...And she knows that you are the only person that loves her and she feels really lonely without u....
But i want to ask you...did she love you?did you make her happy?
The only reason why she dumped you is either you didnt make her feel happy either she is a completely crazy b i t c h that doesnt have any feelings for you...
You should ask yrself these questions and you will be the person that finds the answer
I really think you should have a really serious chat with her!
Best wishes!
2007-02-15 11:25:03 · answer #8 · answered by Neacsu v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She know's exactly that it bothers you she hasn't considered your feelings about the rejection at all - She still wants to keep control over you - Until she finds somebody new and then her game will start with them - You sound really speical - Don't let her have that kind of control on you -
2007-02-15 11:13:55 · answer #9 · answered by pattijohughes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude trust me us guys will never understand this. My ex hasnt let go either she still calls me with all of her problem, she still wants to see me and she still wants me to stay with her. yeah i know that it gets harder and harder each time it happens but there is nothing wrong with being friends. As long as you two have established that you are only friends then keep it that way go out and have fun.
2007-02-15 11:10:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋