I lost my virginity to a male friend of mine. He didn't want a relationship and I knew it and was okay with it. Now I want to be in a relationship with him though. I really really do. Any thoughts on how I can make that transition are very much appreciated.
2007-02-15 10:59:14 · 6 answers · asked by eldorado00 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Crossing over might not be the real question. He has already told you as a friend that he isn't looking for a relationship. You had sex with him anyways and now it is important to you to have this relationship of boy friend /girl friend. Before you go forth with your desire to have him. Ask your self do I really think that he is going to marry me? If the answer is yes go for it, BUT if you really treasure his friendship don't go any further. There is an old saying, "You can make a friend a lover but you can never make a lover a friend." So remember that if he is your lover he will never be just your friend again.
2007-02-15 11:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by ffperki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 05:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You knew his feelings from the outset and accepted that...if you want a relationship you'll need to build one with someone who shares the desire to have one with you, this guy isn't it.
You may express how you feel to him and see if he's changed his mind, but if not then accept that this is what you were ready to deal with when you made the decision to have sex with someone who didn't want a relationship.
2007-02-15 11:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it might be hard to if he told you he didn't want a relationship in the first place and if you say anything than he'll most likely say something like I knew this was gonna happen and that why we should have never started messing around...been there done that
2007-02-15 11:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by blossom1014 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooooo, that's a crazy situation. A relationship problem won't happen, but at least talk to him.
2007-02-15 11:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by CuteCaribChic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him how you feel
2007-02-15 11:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋