Im not with a guy who I have only been with for 4 months. Things are going okay for the most part. Since we haven’t been going out that long I know that I love him but I don’t have those deep and strong “in love” bond that you get when you’re with someone for a bit longer. Anyway, Im having trouble getting those feelings because every time I get them I end up in the conversation with my b/f and other places that even though he’s in a relationship with me (which he says Im the best girlfriend he’s ever had and he loves me) that he fantasizes about other girls and doesn’t think he’ll ever be able to fully stop it. I guess all guys are like this and I need to deal with it but it hurts a whole lot. Another thing was for various holidays like Christmas and V-day I bought him presents but he didn’t really do anything for me than send me a short e-card (That didn’t once say happy v-day in it).
2007-02-15 10:55:39 · 8 answers · asked by Kitsune 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Note, I have NO problem with this, presents aren’t everything, but as for anything goes, he just doesn’t do much to show me he cares about me, you know, just the little things to make me feel special. I end up pampering him to the fullest and getting half if that in return….Im sort of confused. I guess it's just that I wanna feel like Im important to him and that he appreciates me. I know I love to do things special for him and tell him how much I appreciate what he does do for me, also it just makes me feel so much less of anything to him when I know that he’s always looking at other girls and wanting to date them or “give them a try”. I think when you’re in a relationship you should at least try and focus on what you have for while you have it. Sure I know how guys are and I can deal with how they tend to like checking out other girls, but when it comes to “fantasizing” that just sounds a bit deeper…..I dunno. I just wanted to know if anyone had any advice.
2007-02-15 10:58:53 · update #1
I think that guy was already bored in your relationship. He doesn't seem show interest, and doesn't express the he really loves you. He only says that He loves you, but he doesn't make any action, or doesn't do anything to prove that love, that hidden love that doesn't really show up.
Try breaking up with him, and you'll see, and find out, that if he really do loves you, he will do anything to get you back. He will face all endeavors and obstacles that comes on his way, just to get you back in his arms. If that happens, he really loves you. But, if not, forget him, and all about him. Period!
I hope this helps... ;)
2007-02-15 11:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by Jehzeel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are clear of what is happening and that is the most important part to resolve any issues.
Love, feelings, emotions, they can only grow in people, know that and learn that well.
No matter how deep, how strong any feelings can get, they get there by growing, we don't notice that until we can take a step back and look at the whole picture and to take a step back, our mind must be clear of confusion.
Yes, love hurts, but if you never fell in love, you'll never know what it feels to love and to be hurt... so appreciate this feeling and learn this feeling and then accept this feeling... it's not easy, life's never easy, but everything we do, we learn and when we learn, we become better as a person.
You seem to have the picture in your hands right now, just looking for where to go... know that it's not a maze, it's only a maze if we think it is... time will give you answers to what you want, but make sure when you make your decisions, your mind is free of confusion.
Good luck girl.
2007-02-15 11:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by calv83luc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not think he the right guy for you.. Like what you said... He does not care as much as the speical days...
Some time do not believe what a guy says.. because they sweet talk to you get you to bed.... Your relastionship just start..
You just have not found the right guy that youhave feeling for him of love and all... But i think you only going out for 4 months that not love.. whenyou go out with some one for 4-6 years and bond together that love and know what he think or what he does...
4 months is just start of relationship... Some how you do not wanted to get hurt or be in pain... And a guy who fantasizes about other girls is not good.. that is kind of guy who may be cheater.... And mostly they do not care about other feeling when they get hurt...
If guy love girl they only think of that girl not other girls... maybe check them out.. but it mostly you are in his heart... if does really love you...
There always better guy out there for you to date.. and maybe you will find the right guy...
2007-02-15 11:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by babyg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but despite what he says, he's not that into you. I hate to say it, but he might just be keeping you around until something better comes along. In just four months strong feels AND actions should still be going.
And, stop doing everything for him. It's not going to make him want you more. Just the opposite. He'll end up taking you for granted.
2007-02-15 10:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat him. He could be enjoying getting a rise out of you, he can tell by your facial expressions how you feel. Its too early to be in love. I like to call it deep like. There is a saying "People will forget what you say, People will forget what you do, but they never forget how you made them feel" if your not feeling good, its a good sign its not good for you. Only stay with him for fun, don't get serious, he has made it obvious he isn't that in to you.
2007-02-15 11:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by Karen H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a boyfriend and he told me he love me he loved me and that i was he best but truely he didn't care about me. you will have good and bad relationships and he seems to be a bad one. leave him before he breaks your heart because he will and right a the best thing in your life. you need to find someone who will love and truely respect you. goodluck finding lovemay
2007-02-15 11:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by Hayley R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear all that... feel better now?
2007-02-15 10:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by Richard J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just not into you. dump him.
2007-02-15 10:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by orange 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋