My parent is an addict, and is 80 yrs. old.. She is verbally abusive and does not consider your feelings in any way. She is very needy since she has gotten older and wants you around only if she can
use you in some way. I feel much better when I remove myself
from her presence. Yet I keep thinking, but I'm her daughter.
2007-02-15 10:53:15 · 6 answers · asked by shaylee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You may be her daughter but she's a poor example of a mother. Remove yourself, people need to do what's best for them.
2007-02-15 12:13:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she in her right mind? does she suffer from dementia? if she has an illness, get her some help. is there anyone else that can help you? its a tough call. if this is truely a case of just a crabby lady-remove yourself from the situation. nothing you do will make it better, just worse for you.you can still be her daughter, just from more of a distance.have shorter visits less frequently. make sure to phone on a regular basis. if it continues, have her checked out its very common for people with dementia or early alzhiemers to act this way. best of luck to you.
edit-i'm sorry. i may have misunderstood. you said she was an addict. to what?
2007-02-15 11:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cut ties with toxic parents 4 years ago and I'm 46 years old I stuck around for more abuse for the same reason you are because they were my parents and I was their daughter I regret every second I wasted of my life and have never even dreamed I'd be so happy.
2007-02-15 11:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to think of your own health. By removing yourself from a toxic situation doesn't mean you don't love your mother. Send her cards and show your love. But, when you do need to see her be prepared for the attack. Take someone with you that can run interference and distract her attack on you.
2007-02-15 11:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by Gunny Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! just because they are family does not mean that you can be treated like crap or even friends. if that person is treating you like crap then you need to cut that person from your life. you may have already mourned her (because she is so mean to you) and have already moved past that point to just dealing with it. cut her from your life and move on. don't waste any more time thinking about someone who doesn't want the help. besides...it's not worth living a life of stress and anxiety because of one person.
2007-02-15 11:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because they are family doesn't mean you need to be treated this way. Sever the ties.
2007-02-15 11:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋