I know it sounds crazy, but the guys I meet act like I'm a prude!
2007-02-15 10:52:35 · 16 answers · asked by confused (again) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some guys always act like that. You should go just as far as *you* want to go. Depends on the guy and whether or not you feel comfortable with him. If the mood strikes, I don't see any reason not to sleep with him. By the time you're in your forties, you have a good enough sense of what you want, what you need, and whether a guy's a good prospect or a fun fling. Stay away from the mindset that you have to sleep with a guy to keep him interested. Guys of substance are interested in you beyond the sex. If a guy is being rude enough to refer to you as a "prude", he's not worth your time.
2007-02-15 11:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by grrluknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't go any further than you want on a first date. If you are meeting men on a dating site some will only want one thing, others will be married. I knew a woman who went out with someone for a year and they were going to move in together then he dumped her telling her he had a wife and two children! Having said that you meet some odd people but also some very nice ones. Just take your time and don't rush in. I say that from doing just that a few times. However I persevered and met my wife last year on a dating site. So as you can now see I am a bloke but the rules are the same for men and women just watch no one uses you as I suspect you are divorced if you are in your 40's.
2007-02-15 18:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your question implies your "back" in the dating scene after an absence... I'm sure you dated somewhere in your past... So, relating to myself and similar questions... I conclude and advise as follows:
1) What works for you IS WHAT WORKS FOR YOU!!!
2) Just like before (and all time), there are different people with different morals, rules and standards... and that's o.k. also.
3) JUST BE WHO YOU ARE AND COMFORTABLE WITH YOUR DECISIONS, MORALS, RULES, AND STANDARDS...
4) On your first date with whomever, go as far as you are comfortable going and don't let anyone guilt you into anything more... period... There are a few jerks out there that will say "I'm used to this and that... etc."... My response is simple.. "yes, and just where are they now??".
- good luck and enjoy YOUR LIFE!!!!!
2007-02-15 19:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much u want. Im seeing an older woman in her forties and she loves sex. Its probably a surprise to most guys at first, but they will stay for the ride.
2007-02-15 19:04:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a Christian, I believe sex should be saved strictly for marraige. If the guys you are dating consider you a prude for that, they are not the ones for you.
2007-02-15 18:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by biblethumpinmaniac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much you expect to gain out of a potential relationship. Just think of the old expression about milking the cow for free... That should give you a hint.
2007-02-15 18:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a woman in her forties should be able to go as far as she wants to on a first date.
2007-02-15 18:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by Dave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well are you miss goody goody to shoes, or are you gonna be a bad girl? It is a rare compliment to be prude, miss preppy dress.
2007-02-15 19:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by Tuck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you go as far as you want to go --- if the guy does not like it too bad for him ---- maybe you should raise your standards --- there are plenty of guys that will keep going out with you to get to know you not just for sex --- and im way over 40's --- best wishes
2007-02-15 19:03:15 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's the year 2007 but it's still your body and if you don't want to go far on a first date, don't. if a guy likes you, he'll respect your wishes. if he doesn't want to respect your wishes then it's quite obvious what he's after. YOUR HAT!
2007-02-15 20:37:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋