Hi -- I am wondering if I should let my soon to be 16 year old drive. He is still only a little boy if you know what I mean and is very immature for his age. He scared me to death when I was teaching him so he did much of his behind the wheel training with his father.
We are concerned because he is short and still just a kid. We feel it might be better to wait until 17 or 18 or at least until he starts showing some signs of puberty.
What should we do?
2007-02-15 10:51:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Only you, your husband and your son can answer this question.
I can tell you how things went in my family. My daughter was always on the 'young' side, sort of the way you described your son. She didn't even want to get her license until she was about 17 1/2. We were actually pushing her to get it because we were tired of driving her around.
My son got his license the day he was old enough!
We had some standard rules. NO driving with any other teens in the car until you have been driving for at least 6 months. Any tickets or unsafe driving and you will lose your driving privilege PERIOD. No drinking and driving and no getting in a car with anyone who has been drinking. No being a passenger with a driver who has had their license for less than 6 months.
We also make them pay for their own insurance and upkeep on their cars.
You know, you can always let him get his license. He doesn't have to drive just because he has his license.
2007-02-16 14:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel like he's mature enough, then as the parent it's your prerogative to make him wait a year or so until you think he's more ready. If teaching him how to drive is too scary for you and his dad, you should enroll him in a driving school where the instructors are used to teaching teens how to drive and probably scare less easily. I don't know how most driving schools are, but my school also made us go to classes where we watched hours and hours of accident footage. That might also help your son take his responsibilities behind the wheel more seriously.
2007-02-15 18:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by cg17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until your immature son shows some progress. 18 is a better age to give him the keys. Let a Driving School teach your boy how to drive. Good luck.
2007-02-15 19:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by Juanitaville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you feel that he is too immature to take on the responsibility of driving then it would be in his best interest to wait a while. Im 15 and in drivers ed going for my license and I know my moms worries sick when the teacher takes me out to drive. Ask your husband how your son drives see what he thinks if he is not taking it seriously then do what you have to he'll get over it.
2007-02-15 19:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that age is just a number. With that in mind, if you feel that your 16 year old son is not mature enough to drive a car then dont allow it. Some people maybe 18 or 19 before they are mature enough to drive. If you dont think he is mature enough, then explain to him why you feel that way and encourage him ways to show signs that he is mature enough.
Good Luck!
2007-02-15 18:57:05 · answer #5 · answered by Desi(red)™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your son is not a little boy he's 15 years old I think that if ur 15 year old son wants to drive he will and it is his choice you should tell him your opinoin and he might think about it and consider it but usually teenagers will talk back ect. and end up doing what he wants
2007-02-15 18:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by Preppy Prep Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should let him drive but only if you are accompying him. See how he improves on his driving skills and give pointers (but be sure to not hurt his feelings, they can get a bit snappy). When you feel it is time for to cut the umbilical cord, do it. Don't hold him back. Safety first! Good luck :D
2007-02-15 18:58:35 · answer #7 · answered by Okay.... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he can drive when he saves up and earns for his own car, but you both have to agree on the car.
The combination of time and work will mature him physically and mentally enough by the time he gets the money
2007-02-15 19:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Parents know when there kids are ready to do that kind of thing trust your instick parents are usely right
2007-02-15 19:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by katie_kat_1981 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to waite a year or show he can be responsable. his life is not worth the risk
2007-02-15 19:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by kitty a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋