What are your impressions of quiet friends who open up better through writing (email, cards, etc.)?

Answer 1

Most of the great philosophies/religions or the world encourge us to "keep our own counsel" to one degree or the other.

People who are appropriately quiet and choose writing as a prime means of communicating are the cultural stars of this generation.

Some people were once given the honorary, un-official title of "People of Great Letters", for the things that they committed to the written word were filled with philosophy, mystery, political thought, history, biography (the list goes on).

Above all, feel honored that this person writes to you. Do not take it as personal offense, unless the letters indicate that you should.

Try writing back. It will stretch you, and affirm your friend in their style of communication.

You may also have to consider the idea that you are not an easy person to talk to. I'm not saying this is so. Still, some of us shut down the lines of communication in ways we are not aware of, and others can either stop communicating with us, or they can change to other forms of communication...such as e-mails, IM, letters, postcards...

It sounds as if your friend may be more valuable than you realize. Do your best to nurture a connection with a person such as this.

It has the potential to last a lifetime.

Answer 2

Apparently, she is just reserved in person. Try and get her to open up more in social settings. Some people are more comfortable with revealing these sort of things through email because it does not require an immediate reaction (good or bad). In person, just react like nothing has happened as they are choosing to act the same way. If you do act different, things may become awkward, as I've recently experienced - although probably in a less mature manner.

Answer 3

I think it is just probably easier for some to write out their feelings. Writing out feelings is a very healthy way of expressing yourself. It also help with mental healing when you keep a journal of feelings and such. You dont have to look at the person when you are writing, so you dont have to worry about their reaction or maybe getting interuptted. Or maybe, the person just has an easier time concentrating when writing.

Answer 4

Hello Delovely. I think they are wonderfull people that previously did not have an opportunity to open up because they were very shy and now with the internet, e-mail, cards they can show others who they really are. I am one of those [e-mail]

Answer 5

I'm one of them. Though, I can be loud and obnoxious at times with people I know, otherwise, I am quiet most of the time. Writing lets you organize your thoughts much easier and you say exactly what you want to say and when.

Answer 6

Very creative. I'd encourage them to write other things: articles, fiction, short stories, poetry, novels

Answer 7

some people find it much easier to open up on paper

Answer 8

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