let her go and if she is yours she will come back?

Question

my girl friend of 8 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago. She has things to figure out for herself and says she is taking every day as it comes. There is no-one else for either of us at the moment. We were best friends and have been since we were 17. I miss her so much and would love to have her back but i know i cannot force her to love me enough to get back with me. There were no real problems in our relationship, she says i am a fantastic guy but its all her. We have only spoke once since and that was about what we are doing with our house. We still exchanged "i love you's" at the end of the conversation. She knows how I feel and knows I want her back but i have decided to just leave her and hope that time apart makes her want to come back to me. Is it best to just let her go and hope or should i fight for her and risk pushing her further away?

Answer 1

You answered your own question...you want to be with her...right? you know if you fight for her she will push further away right??... so then where would that leave you... do you trust her... when she says she loves you.. you would know if she means it, and if she means it then there is no problem.. no one wants to hear that their partner needs a break to find things out for then selves... i know i didn't but as time when on with not seeing each other they realize how much they miss that... she WILL come back..... If it's meant to be and by the sounds of it... It is meant to be....

Good luck...and don;t stress yourself over it because when she comes back and she will... even tho you will and do miss her...don't hang all over her when you too are together females get bothered by that...everything will be fine...

Hope this helped...

Answer 2

I understnad what she is going through. She wants space. She wants to figure herself out as an individual. If you have been in a relationship that long then you probably seem like a lot more of a pair than as individuals. If it is really worth it, she will come back. This is really sad though. Maybe shes bored with it. But I think if there were no real problems she'll realize what shes missing and come back to you. Give her that space but make her understnad that you're still there for her & everything, just don't put pressure on her. BEST OF LUCK

Answer 3

That's funny I swear I'm reading your story and I'm like whoa that's my sisters story. She started dating her boyfriend in h.s. her senior year she was 18, she's now 25. They always seemed happy about 2 years ago she told him she wanted to get married he said he wasn't ready a year passed and she told him again he said he wanted to ask her and he would soon. Another year passed she had heard from his brother that he had bought a ring so we got all excited and went dress shopping well looking cause we didn't buy anything and nope he never asked her. She finally had enough told him she couldn't be in the relationship anymore because she felt she was being held back by being in a relationship that was obviously not going anywhere and she walked. He still tells her he loves her and that to him it's not over but yet I hear he was at the bar with some girl 2 weeks ago and he is making attempts to sell the ring that he bought for my sister. Now I don't know if this is going to help your situation but at least you know you're not alone.

Answer 4

I think it was the great Jay Z that said
"if u love it then u should let it out of it's cage
and **** it if it comes back then u know that it' here to stay." Wise words. Wise words. Think about it bro.
After breaking up with u, saying I love u to u at the end of the phone call was kind of insensitive though. I'm sure that stirred alot of emotions and sent some false impressions. Just enjoy life my man and buy a Jay Z album.

Answer 5

i think that is exactly what u need to do, if she really loves you then she will come back and if she doesnt maybe you and her werent meant to be. I understand where she is comming from maybe she thought she was losing herself in your relationship and she needed some time to just be herself and realize her dreams and see if you and her is really what she wants. and like i said the best thing to do is just let her figure out herself and then when she does take it day by day. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 6

Well, you never need to push a girl to like you, it just makes the relationship a fake one. I would give her time ro make up her mind. If she doesnt want to come back then let her go.

Answer 7

smetimes it jus happens.pple need 2 find themselves frm time 2 time.i think she still loves u n as she sais she needs time.all u can do is b her bestfriend.b there 4 her wen she needs u and b prepared to pick up da pieces wen she messe up.u can wait around for her but if she finds sm1 else den jus b patient.she';l realise ur da 1 for her.like u said-if u love her set her free,if she comes bac she's urs,if she doesnt den she was never urs.sooner or l8r she;l mis u 2

Answer 8

At this time, you are doing the best thing. But try not to be so available. Also do you think she is seeing someone else. When people say it's not you it's them, they are normally not happy and have already met with someone who is brining smiles o their face. Continue to do what you are doing

Answer 9

Dude why do you want to force it? just give her time, if she realizes that she is missing alot by not being with you, she will come back. You have to let the bird fly away, if it comes back; its meant to be. give yourself time to analyze your life and of what you really want.

Answer 10

fight for her and if she goes away it was meant to be, if you wait things will just get further away with my experience