He texted me about needing to talk about our relationship due to some confusion he's having. He ex is phoning him alot and plus I was he first...(his my second, but my first was with another guy who was also his first time too). I feel really guilty about that for some reason.
Due to this text I've been sent in to confusion because I feel like it's my fault and I really like him...I know I'm not very good at the whole talking thing with him because I seem to lose all my words and it takes alot to come out with anything to say...it doesn't help he not much of a talked too.
I get the feeling I'm doing something wrong...he's asked to slow the relationship down, which I think is right, but it difficult because I just ....well, I've never been in a real boyfriend girlfriend type relationship.
I think I am just too messed up for this and therefore need some help or at least advice.
2007-02-15 10:41:39 · 10 answers · asked by bty61986 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
could it be he is a bit embarrassed that you weren't a virgin and he was and you had to control the situation... I'm guessing he didn't know what to do. and can prob see comfort in his ex as they didn't do it and that means he help the upper card in that relationship. it could also mean you might have been a bit forceful and he might not have been ready. when it comes time to talk then listen... don't get upset or mad just listen and see what he says. if he wants to stay with you he will make that clear... if not he will most likely beat around the bush and get you to take the hint. let him have some space and let him know you look up to him not down on him. that he can be happy with you. good luck
2007-02-15 11:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by young, hot, and Aussie! (chick) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been on one date and you already slept with this guy I got that straight right. . . Ok either he got what he wanted and is asking you to slow down as a disguise so that he can end the relationship or he feels that sleeping with you after only one date is just moving way to fast and sweetie it is. I think you should stop worrying so much about who you're dating and sleeping with and worry more about your education because your message made little to no sense. I'm not insulting you I'm trying to help you understand that in life boys will come and go but if you don't buckle down and get your education you're going to end up being a nobody.
2007-02-15 10:48:01 · answer #2 · answered by Help Me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did u sleep wit a guy on da first date?thats seems very easy.maybe hes not into u coz u gav it up 2 easy n he has feelin for his ex.does it really matter if he leaves u.it better now den l8 wen u get 2 involved n it breaks ur heart.it should go both ways.
2007-02-15 10:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by minoo p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah defintly slow it down, having sex especially with not very much experience, on a first date is moving way too quickly. Try conventional dating where you usally don't kiss til the second date
2007-02-15 10:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well saying we need to talk isnt necassary meaning you will break up. it could mean somthing else. If he does happen to break up with u then dont worry, he is probaly a guy who cant make up his mind.
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2007-02-15 10:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by Kayley M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to him about this. repeat eveything you just told me. it will be hard but honesty and communication is the key to a great relationship. trust me you realy just need to tell him all of this. good luck!
2007-02-15 10:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by lcoxhorns 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask whats up with him lately and that you don't feel confortable with his old girlfriend.
2007-02-15 10:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Heather♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur bf u need some time alone. then u both can think thing out.
2007-02-15 10:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by :kjelseth: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ask him the best thing to do is ask you know just be easy
2007-02-15 10:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by tyra b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry have faith ! he luvs you and you should tell him that you luv him to !
2007-02-15 10:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋