does anyone think a parent should be this strict??

Question

grounding me for listening to music while doing my homework and grounding my brother for not telling on me?? ugh i was adopted and im sick of always being yelled at for the littleist things. my mom says i can only listen to music if i have A+s and A's. i have all A's and two B's and she's not happy with that. im so mad. at least i try my best right??

Answer 1

I know what you mean, maybe your parents are too strict, but you have to take it easy and try to be tolerant with them, as you want them to be with you.

All the parents make mistakes, we are not perfect, and nobody teached us how to raise a child, so don't expect too much from them.

First you have to realize that they are doing all that because they REALLY THINK that's for your own good. Believe it or not, we tend to fail while try to do our best.

And don't let that kind of things trouble you so much, you have to start learning how to handle with dificulties that are completely out of your hands to solve.

After saying that, the only thing i can recomend you is to try to speak quietly and calmed with them. Look for a moment where you three are togheter, or do it separately.

Try to do it in a moment when you are calmed and having a good time togheter, then you tell them that you really do your best, and you are doing better than much of your class mates, tell them that your music really helps you to relax and enjoy the work you do.

Tell them that you realize that they tell you for your own good, but ask them to start trusting you can make good choices as well. You can even negotiate that you'll keep your grades if they let you hear your music, tell them something like : "Let's try for a couple of months and you will see i can do it".

That might help them understand that you understand them, and that you really want as much as they do, to make things rigth.

You can even look for some information about how good is music in productivity. Look in the internet, and show this information to them.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Mom has a good reason for not wanting you to listen to music while you do your homework. Science has proven that you can't concentrate as well to study if music is on. It is a subtle distraction inside your mind. You don't think it is distraction, but you don't feel it happening. It just occurs in the sub-conscious mind and keeps you from giving your all to what you are studying. You have pretty good grades and if those two "B's" are your best then keep up the good work. Don't challenge science! You might lose that conquest and then some old person would say "I told you about that!" We just can't have that, now can we?

Answer 3

No way no mom should be that strict I can listen to music while I'm doing my homework and all As is not something most people get on there report card a lot of kids get what u get A's and B's and the grades ur getting are very good ur probably on the horor roll I usually get all Bs and 2 or 3 A's so yeah thats very strick
here are my parents rules
1. Do your homework as soon as u get home
2. Any bad calls home from the teacher grounded
3. talking back grounded
4. swearing at my parents grounded
ect.
normal rules

Answer 4

My parents were more strict than yours when I was a kid.
I got grounded for 6 weeks if I got lower than a B on my report card. I went to bed @8:30 until I was 15 y/o, etc.
At the time, it seemed horrible to me.
And I am a much more liberal parent to my kids.
I have a large family of my own now--4 grown up kids and 2 little people still at home. When I see how what I became as an adult and how it affected my kids, I am so glad my parents were strict.
Someday I hope you will feel the same way.
You sound like a good kid.
Good luck.

Answer 5

First, I doubt seriously that being adopted has anything to do with this.

I think that most parents would be DELIGHTED with a report card that had all As and Bs; if you can listen to music and still get your homework done and get the grades you're getting, then I have no idea why you're being punished. Unless there's something more to the story than what you're telling, I would say she is being unreasonable.

Answer 6

Well if you know the rules and you choose to ignore them then it's not your parents being "strict" ..it's YOU being disrespectful.

And you don't have "All A's" if you have "two B's".....hello?

Be happy you were adopted and be greatful you have a roof over your head and parents that give a crap wether or not you get an education and that force you to work hard and learn.

When you grow up and you aren't an idiot anymore, you'll thank them

Get on your knees and thank your lucky stars that you aren't living on the streets and supporting yourself.

By the way...if you're grounded...what the heck are you doing on here???

Answer 7

a little harsh but she's right about not listening to music when you study or while doing homework, too much distraction. You grades seem great but there is alot of competition out there for good colleges and mom knows this and wants you to excel. Talk with her and tell her that you appreciate her concern and support but can we lighten up a bit because you are doing your very best.

Answer 8

Ok, she's your mom, she makes the rules in her house. You don't like the rules, I'm sure you can always leave, but you'll have to support yourself financially, and I doubt you're ready to do that.

BUT....I have teenagers, and I let them listen to music while doing homework, heck..I listened to music while doing homework. I don't expect specific grades, simply knowledge that they are doing their best. For some kids, their best may be a C, others their best will be an A.

Answer 9

I personally think that your parents are strict. But then again it depends on your situation. If you can't focus on your homework while listening to music and your grades are suffering then they have a point...but if you have good grades (like you said) and have no problem focusing on your studies then they're a bit unreasonable. You can also try talking to them about house rules and try to compromise. That way you're both satisfied. If you're having other issues with your parents you can try www.teenfad.ph. They have some nice resources there for teens.

Answer 10

Why are you using the computer if your grounded? Its her house and when you live under her roof you have to follow those rules. ......Yes I do think that is a little strict especially becasue you are making A's and sound like you are trying. I have 3 sons and they dont make perfect grades, but I dont ground them for it. Instead I reward them when they do get A's. Makes them want to try harder.