So, I asked a question before regarding my ex who used me for my money and for intimacy. We are broken up now and Im not speaking to him, but my question is: should I tell his friends what hes done? Should I reveal it to everyone to get back at him and to ruin his reputation? Only a couple of other people besides me know that he used me for money and whatnot. Should I let the truth be heard?
2007-02-15 10:29:55 · 29 answers · asked by rebecca l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you try to make others look bad, it only backfires. You will be the scorned, pathetic woman with nothing better to do than bad-mouth her ex. The best revenge is living well. Get a better-looking guy who treats you like a queen, and introduce him to all your ex's friends.
Plus, you don't wanna stoop to his level, do ya?
2007-02-15 10:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by trai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing can be gained by ruining this guys reputation. Besides, you'll most likely find that other girls won't care and he'll do it again to them anyway.
Keep your hurt personal and learn from it. You've seen the animal now avoid it. Make sure you recognize the signs so when another one comes along you can hit the ground running.
Ruining his reputation won't change what happened to you and i don't think it will make the hurt go away, it will just make you as nasty and as manipulative as he is.
2007-02-15 10:35:21 · answer #2 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't understand what that'll do. He's a guy. There are a lot of guys who use for intimacy. Money, however, is a different story. But do you really think using a girl for money and intimacy will really "ruin his reputation"? Especially in his FRIENDS eyes? I really doubt they'll care. I mean, they ARE his friends. I don't doubt they do the same to girls all the time... But suit yourself. Try it if you really think it'll do anything at all.
2007-02-15 10:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by Ihaveaquestion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can tell everyone the truth about him, which most likely noone will believe you or you can do it and then he can come back with something about you and it's going to pist you off even more than what you are now. So if I was you I would just leave it alone cause it doesn't sound like this guy is worth it and all its going to do it end up worse then what it seems now.
2007-02-15 10:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...I wouldnt tell his friends. First of all that is a private thing and nobody's business. Second...why bother getting back at him...that makes you as low as he is...and you want to rise above that. If this is the kind of person he is...then others will know without you having to tell them. He will do that to the next girl and the next...and pretty soon nobody will want anything to do with him. What comes around goes around...his turn will come. One day he is really going to fall in love with someone and maybe they will treat him the way he treats others. I would just leave it alone and move on. That shows you are the better person.
2007-02-15 10:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well don't just start spreading it. let it "slip" when u find an opportunity to do so. also tell the people who know to do the same. News like that will travel! but keep in mind, if you donot see a point in time where you can do not spill! When i say a point in time i mean like "hey why did you two break up?" that kinda thing or if word gets around that he has done it to another simply say "hey that happened to me too! what jerk!" other than that dont say anything.
2007-02-15 10:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by Karen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is a powefully attractive option, but in the end it won't make you feel any better, and has the potential to make you look bad to others. I hate this stupid saying, but it really is the truth -- living well is the best revenge.
Stay above the pettiness, and soon you'll be walking past him on the street one day with a new hot amazing guy on your arm and that will make you feel good.
2007-02-15 10:33:37 · answer #7 · answered by FKC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you mean by un-answered prayer, but when you pray dont expect a voice to tell you the answer, or some miracle sign to happen. (Dont get me wrong miracles do happen) Also dont judge god just because of "christians" lots of people claim to be christians or catholics etc etc but sometimes there just as lost as others. You cant always believe that whoever claims to be religious or christian has a relationship with god, they can prove it a little though.... alright you can tell if what they do glorifies god or not. Like if i tell you that i shower every day and i stink you wont believe me right? (i hope not :) So if they dont act "good" then there probably not with god (butwe all make mistakes) so dont not trust god because of them and dont judge all christians according to the ones you met. Try and grow in your faith by reading the bible and more prayer. Dont excpect a voice...dont excpect a immediate result you have to totally belive and trust in him. You wouldnt want to prove something to someone who didnt trust you right? Just keep on moving! YOU have to pursue god! :) OH BTW YES THEY DO RUIN HIS REPUTATION!
2016-05-24 04:46:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For what purpose, revenge only? How would that help you?
Be the bigger person and move on. If someone asks you then feel free to be honest, but spreading the word simply to hope to cause him to look bad will have other people questioning your honesty, not to mention just building some bad karma for yourself.
What goes around, comes around...he'll get what he deserves eventually. Don't worry.
2007-02-15 10:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do anything, you don't want to make another problem for yourself, just let be what is and move on with your life. Obviously you would like some revenge for his selfishness in using you for money and intimacy, but be the better person and just move on.
2007-02-15 10:36:12 · answer #10 · answered by nickhawkins21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋