But I do not know: he is a nice guy but such a beast! And he lives in
a nice place, but far from my family.
I think he was not serious when he talked about dying, was he? Can a beast like him really die because he won't marry? Men who do not marry do not die of it, right?
Beauty
2007-02-15 10:27:27 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all this person is very insecure and is using manipulation to trap you. Usually this is because he knows you are a nice person and he may get you. Men like this continue to abuse using much larger stakes once you are married. Do not fall into such a trap. Maybe you should be honest enough to tell him you need to be in love with the person you will marry because marriage is forever.
Maybe you could tell him you think alot of him and you could not do that to anyone. He should wait until he meets someone that feels the same way he does.
You definitely should not be alone with this person and/or go anywhere with him. If you are considering this at all you should first see a counselor to identify if this person is an abuser.
He will not die but obviously he knew what to say to get you to consider....
2007-02-15 10:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mich 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean he is a beast? And no he will not die, the only thing he may be is hurt but do not let this be the base you make your decision off of. If you love them then go for it, marry him but if you do not share the same feelings then there is no reason why you should marry him.
2007-02-15 18:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by nickhawkins21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he won't die if you don't marry him! He is just being manipulative by saying that. If he's a beast, dump him and find a real dream. Don't waste time on a loser! Life is too short!
2007-02-15 18:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't want to marry him. So say "no." And don't debate it with him. He won't die from it. Now if he continues to sound suicidal talk to him about seeking help. Give him the number of a suicide help line. Call them on 3 way if need be. But that's about as much as you can do. If he dies it's not your fault.
2007-02-15 18:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by Zonte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't die. He's emotionally manipulating you. If he's doing it this early on, it will only get worse. Marriage is a big step and you should be 10000% sure it's right, and not be under any weird threat. When the right one comes along, it will feel right. This guy seems like a creepy manipulator to me.
2007-02-15 18:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by FKC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, how old are you?
This guy has issues, and I think you should not marry him. Stay away from this guy - men that say things like this often end up being abusive controlling individuals.
Never, ever start a life with someone who starts it off with manipulation.
2007-02-15 18:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run.... And don't stop until are so far away that he can not find you. This is a control freak... He will do anything and say anything to get his way. Unless you want to be enslaved by this guy for the rest of your life then get out of this relationship and get out FAST!
2007-02-15 18:32:16 · answer #7 · answered by Dan J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone that truly loves you wouldn't even think to say something like that - He sounds like he is bullying you - And you don't need that - Don't get stuck in that kind of relationship - If he is talking nonsense move on - He's taking advantage of your kindness - By the things he says - move on for real
2007-02-15 18:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by pattijohughes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask, then you dont really want to marry him. I married twice because they were nice guys. devorced twice. They were always "nice" now when I ask for them to pay for anything for the children there beasts!!! Neither wanted to break up. neither died.. just found another sucker to put up with there bull.
2007-02-15 18:33:13 · answer #9 · answered by KrisT4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rent Beauty and The Beast and see what happens when she kisses him, that might help you out.
2007-02-15 18:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by LM 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋