My parents are getting ready to celebrate 35 years of marriage and because of that my sister and I are thinking of planning a vow renewal and was wondering what would be the best way to go with that.
I am a wedding planner and this is new to me
2007-02-15 10:20:00 · 6 answers · asked by WI Wedding Lady 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The vow renewal is kinda a surprise, my parents didn't have the greatest wedding when they were married back in 72, and we'd wait till later in their marriage but my dad's health is bad, so we want to make this special. :)
2007-02-15 10:29:51 · update #1
And yes I am really new to wedding planning. I know how to plan a vow renewal but with this being my own parents but it was like all that training went and disappeared.
2007-02-15 10:31:23 · update #2
You're a wedding planner and you don't know anything of renewing vows?!! Gads-you must be VERY new to the business!! Renewal of vows is a wedding ceremony/reception except you don't need a license/registering. Priests do it, ministers do it, JPs do it, Elvis impersonators do it. It can be as small a function or as big as they want. If they have a nice circle of friends and a big house, you can invite people to the house for a reception and hire a minister or whatever to perform the ceremony. On invitations you state that this is an invitation to an anniversary celebrating 35 years of marriage and that John and Mary will be renewing their vows. That's it. no biggy. HOWEVER - this must be something your parents WANT. This is NOT an occasion for "surprises". My parents said definitely NO when it was suggested as they felt their first marriage was all they needed and didn't want an emotional event. My husband;s parents had a teeny weeny wedding first time so for their 50th they had a big "do" and renewed vows. My husband and I renewed our vows on our 20th in church as we had converted since the original wedding. Please honor their wishes, not your own fantasies.
2007-02-15 10:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Renewing of vows should be a decision made ONLY by the married couple. It would not be appropriate for you and your sister to arrange this unless it's something both of your parents wish to do. However if you want to have a surprise anniversary party for them...that would be lovely
2007-02-15 10:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is so wonderful that your sister and you want to do this for your parents. To be married 35 years is definitely an accomplishment.
If it were me, I would want to make it a surprise...keep it small and intimate...perhaps their favorite restaurant. Speak to the restaurant owner and see if he will give you a secluded area in his place that they can have privacy...to do a quiet ceremony.
Invite their closest friends and family. Tell your parents that you are just taking them out for dinner for the anniversary...and when they get there and see all the other people they will be surprised.
Everyone loves surprises.
2007-02-15 10:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest contact a local celebrant and asking them to help you with ideas. It's going to be hard to pull off without both your parents being aware of it so tread carefully. i would suggest arranging a spot where people can make toasts and give speeches and that sort of thing and when it's you and your sister turn, ask your parents to come up with you and surprise them with the celebrant. Get your mum a veil to wear so it's like another wedding all over again. It will be sweet to see your dad lift his brides veil and kiss her all over again.
2007-02-15 10:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2007-02-15 14:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by www tailorontheroad com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a wonderful idea. i always wanted to do that for my parents but my mom died to soon.
why not have a small/medium party and have it done there. there are many retired judges and pastors for local churches that will do it. if you or they have a church that you belong to, ask that pastor.
congrats to your mom and dad.
2007-02-15 10:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋