Lots of people came to visit in the hospital, but since I've been home I haven't felt like having visitors yet. I feel like I should be inviting my husbands parents and my mother over, but I really don't want to yet. They all came to visit in the hospital, but none of them are exactly my favourite people. I had a c-section so I am still recovering from that (but it is going well), and I am not comfortable breastfeeding in front of anyone except my husband and sister. No one has said anything to me yet, but I feel like they will probably be calling soon and I don't know what to say. I guess I am feeling a little bit of the post partum blues (nothing drastic, just having a bit of anxiety). I kind of feel like I am not ready to share him with anyone yet. What do I do, and what do I say if people start calling and asking to come over?
2007-02-15 10:15:41 · 15 answers · asked by wendygirl1000 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You tell them the truth...you are recovering from major surgery and need more time...you should be sleeping whenever you get the chance ....not doing any cleaning or housework either.....they can come later on....no need for excuses...just say "im just not up to it yet....Ill call you when i am' meanwhile...have hubby e-mail some pictures...end of discussion!
2007-02-15 10:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by motherhendoulas 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just take baby steps (haha). I had a c-section too, so I understand the healing process. When it comes time to breastfeed, go to another room.
It's okay to feel like you don't want to share him... but you will get joy out of seeing other people enjoy him as much as you do!! Just have one or two people over at a time, don't worry about cleaningthe house, or being a hostess... they are there to see that baby!! All the Mom's in your life understand what it's like for the first few weeks.
Take another week or two for yourself, but I think it would be a good idea for you to be around people, esecially if you have the baby blues!! Keep an eye on those baby blues... they can turn into post-partum depression without you noticing it!!
2007-02-15 10:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thru the same thing. Don't feel like you have to invite anyone. You will receive visitors when you are ready. Recovering from c section is not fun so you need as much rest as you can get. Tell your family when they call that you will let them know when is a good time for you. As far as breastfeeding I would always cover up with a blanket. But now my baby is 10 months and its hard to put a blanket so what my baby does she covers her face with her hands its so cute. Congrats on the baby.
2007-02-15 10:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by beenie 21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, congratulations on your new son! I have had two boys both by c-section in the past few years. DO NOT feel as if you must cater to anyone else's feelings at this point in time. It is very stressful recovering from a c-section and trying to breastfeed at the same time. Enlist your husband as an ally. Ask your inlaws to visit when your husband is around, and then use that time to take a much needed shower or nap...believe me, your absence will not be noticed!!! Besides, if family comes to visit after work or in the evening, they usually go away after an hour or so!
2007-02-15 10:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's fine- I'm sure people understand it's a hard time you had major surgery and you are not getting much sleep. I had a c-section to and it takes a while to recover from. I did'nt breast feed because my baby wouldn't latch on but i remember feeling like i would never breast fed in front of anyone. It's a tough time just tell your relatives the truth and they will understand and if they dont too bad for them. I was too nervous i did'nt even want anyone to nurse my baby- i think you go threw a stage of over protection but by 4 months that will pass. you have every right to be protective of yourself and your bub. look after your self.
2007-02-15 10:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by Kellie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a c-section with both my boys and the recovery sucks and breast feeding in front of people wasnt my thing either so when they call just say I am really not feelin like company yet still tryin to get the hang of things they should understand if they know what you have been through its tough but be honest and they will understand in the long run....good luck!
2007-02-15 10:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by ajtownsend83 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
verify with your OBGYN. i become instructed to stay interior 2 hours of living house after 30 weeks - yet that become 11 years in the past - it could have replaced. in case you do make certain to bypass (i don't comprehend that i might in view which you already became your mothers and fathers' invite down) ensure you end to get out, walk around and use the bathing room each and every hour and a a million/2 to 2 hours. in case you sit down too long, your feet and legs will swell. you could continually use the excuse that your physician stated it is too far to bypass so previous due in the being pregnant -then upload, possibly after the toddler is born. (Newborns might sleep countless the way)
2016-09-29 04:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for wanting some time alone with your husband and your son. I'm due in May and my friends seem to think there is something wrong with me that I don't want company at that time. But, IMHO, that is not the time for friends. Congratulations on your son and stick to your guns.
2007-02-15 10:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by mellow_violet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know your reason why you have not invited any one over as yet, give your self time and when you are ready and comfortable you will have who ever you want to visit come along.
2007-02-15 10:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by maria fkun 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell people how you feel. they will understand. your recovering. As long as you dont d it in a mean way. tell em, "look i really dont feel like having company right now cause im not feeling well. come back next week or ill call you when i feel better."
2007-02-15 10:22:20 · answer #10 · answered by hotbabygirl0202 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋