I found out and saw that he was talking to another girl saying that he couldnt wait to hang out with her and that he was glad that he met her! He commented on all her pics saying wow youre beautiful and calling her cute and hott and everything! i asked him about it and he said that he can have friends and that he didnt do anything wrong saying any of that to her! i strongly disagree! i didnt know you were suppose to cry on your v-day!! he also said that i made his day misreable because i made the love of his life, his niece, cry because she heard me yelling at him and he yelled back. he said that shes scared of him and its my fault! i really need help and what makes this worse is that we have the rascal flatts concert in 2 days!! please someone help me!!!
2007-02-15 10:03:29 · 25 answers · asked by BrittyD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, Valentine's Day is a colossal JOKE, don't put so much emphasis on what or what doesn't happen on that day.
Your boyfriend is checking out other girls and commenting on their beauty - well that is part of the problem we face in 2007, with the myspaces and other internet sites, it makes saying and showing things much easier and impersonal, it also allows people this false sense of security that they can't get hurt from it. It also allows others to monitor what is being said and done by those they want to watch, - you seeing what your boyfriend wrote to this girl. There is good and bad with these sites, and you are seeing the worst right now.
Looking is one thing, we all do it. Making plans to hang out, that is different. It seems as though he isn't as committed as you thought he was. Better to find out now. Sell him the tickets, or buy them from him, and go your separate ways. If he wants to be in the relationship with you, then he needs to stop making plans with other girls, plain and simple.
As for you making his niece cry, nice try on his part, but it was HIS yelling that got her scared, and he needs to own up to that as well.
2007-02-15 10:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by I_Love_Life! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I was in the same problem when I was 14. I was so in love with the guy and was blind - or I guess I just didn't wanna see that he just wasn't that into me. Life isn't supposed to be like that. I think you should leave him even though you still care about him.. one day you'll be happy you left because there are better guys out there. A guy is NOT supposed to make you cry - especially on Vday!!! Also, he should not be saying **** like that to other girls. If he really cared for you the way he says he does he would respect you in every way and wouldn't say **** like that to other girls. It was very inappropriate for him to do that and I don't think you should forgive him - no matter how much he begs or cries, not even if he's the hottest guy EVER. You will get over it and will be glad you did. It's all worth it in the end. Good luck sweetie!
2007-02-15 10:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For all practical purposes, he's not your boyfriend any more if he's meeting other women on the side and saying complimentary things to them. So, you don't really "have" him anymore, and if you want to keep any pride or dignity in your life, walk away, and whoever has possession of the ticket's goes to the concert with anyone but you (or him). You have a right to be upset, but, scaring his niece is not a good thing, especiallly if she is really small- you should have attempted to have a more private discussion, but what's done is done. Leave the creep and cut your loses.
2007-02-15 10:11:10 · answer #3 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wasn't doing anything wrong by talking to the girl but what he was saying was definitely leading up to something. And the fact that he was doing it on valentines day should be setting off alarm bells in your head. My advice, is to give him the chance to make it right. Obviously this has been a rather big fight between you but what about the rest of the relationship? Is one bad day worth throwing away all of it? I would suggest trying to work through it. As for blaming you about his neice well, don't feel guilty at all. You yelled at him for something he did wrong and because he probably knew he was doing wrong, he yelled back. The fact that his neice is now scared of him has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him controlling himself in front of her.
2007-02-15 10:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seriously if he can't understand why his exchange with this other girl upset you, he's not worth it. I'm so sorry to hear that your v-day was ruined because of him, that's totally unfair!
Find someone who appreciates you and tells you "I can't wait to hang out with you, I'm so glad I met you, you're beautiful/cute/hot". You're current bf should be saying these things to you - no one else!!!! No part of what you've said is your fault! I know it's not easy to make a decision to break up with him but it may very well be for the best - don't let him hurt you - rain on his parade before he storms on yours.....I wish you luck!!!
2007-02-15 10:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by JD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Maybe he is being too friend ly to this girl and is playing you. Go to his niece and calm her down then give the tickets to the girl he flirts with and say you can have them because if he really loved you he would have never say those things he said.
2007-02-15 10:09:14 · answer #6 · answered by juan26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guys intrest is wandering. I would give the other ticket to another guy friend and have fun with someone that cares about you and won't make you feel down on yourself. Oh and break up with the heart breaker you can do better than him
2007-02-15 10:08:28 · answer #7 · answered by purplemonki82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for his niece i would talk to her and say..."sweetie listen..."john" an me were yelling because we had a small fight...don't be scarded of him because he loves you...don't worry it will be okay!
As for the guy i would try to solve things out....talk to this girl....]
maybe your BF was just complimenting her to be nice...i have to say thats rude of him to call her hott but saying im glad i meet you and your cute isn't really bad!
it might be for you though :(
Anyways....i really would try to talk about i8t CALMLY....and if hes pulls out the "i'm allowed to have friends that are girls" card then say you weren't just friends...you called her hot!!!!!!
personally i would break up with him...
as for the concert....see if he's still going...if not ask if he wants to sell his ticket to your buddy..
if he's going i8 would sell your ticket to an ugly fat girl so he has to suffer sitting beside her
=D...good luck and hoped this cheered you up and made you laugh!
v-day ruiners suck!
2007-02-15 10:11:50 · answer #8 · answered by tickingclocks 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OMG--- I'm going through the very same thing. I'm very passionate about it too. If you're in a serious relationship you don't make sexual comments on people's profiles. It's wrong. And what hurts the most is that they don't think they're doing anything wrong. So my question is if you see your girlfriend is hurting... technically something is wrong. I'm sick and tired of men being disrespectful. We didn't argue... I avoided him on V-Day.
2007-02-15 10:14:48 · answer #9 · answered by NicOOd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there will be a lot of great days in your life, but not with this poor excuse for a boyfriend!! He'll never be mature enough for you, do yourself a favor and get rid of him! You guys and girls out there don't have to take this kind of abuse in your lives. Please just move on without him,he'll dump you soon anyway, you can be sure he'll blame you for the breakup too, so be one jump ahead of him!! get rid of him!
2007-02-15 10:15:50 · answer #10 · answered by ann m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋