My mom needs help. She is a drug addict and about to have no-where to live. I want to help her, but I have my own family that I need to put first. I am pregnant & married with 1 daughter already. I do not want the negative influences in my life that a drug addict carries witht them. Especially a meth-addict. The paranoia, the conspiracies, the sneaking around, lying & stealing stuff. It is so very hard to see your own mother in such a horrible situation with no-one to support her. ANY ADVICE????????
2007-02-15 09:48:41 · 7 answers · asked by sj_melissa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2007-02-15 09:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is an awful situation, but you do have to think of you and your husband and children first. As sad as it is, your mother made her choice about the way she wanted to live her life. The only person that is going to change her life is her.
She chose the drugs over a relationship with you and her grandchildren. It is sad. She chose that life. Don't let her choice destroy your life. You can love her and let her know that, but you don't need to support her or help her with her habit. Let her know you care and you will always be there for her when she has decided that you and your children and worth loving more than drugs. Tell her you love her, which is why you can't help her until she is clean.
I hope she has enough strength to get through this addiction and see that there are more better things to life.
2007-02-15 18:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by nbczero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, quit feeling guilty and try to convince your mother to get some help. See if there are any inpatient places that your mother can go to that can help her and convince her this is what she needs to do. Check through your mental health clinic in your area they could probably give you some resources to check into. Unless a person wants the help there is really nothing you can do. You have your own family to raise and bringing her into your family would not be a good idea because it would only bring heartache and chaos to you and your family and destroy your relationship in the end. She has done this to herself and she is going to have to clean up her act or be on the streets until she decides she doesn't want to live like this anymore. My heart goes out to you and your family. It is really heartbreaking what drugs do to our loved ones. There really isn't an answer to this if the person doesn't want help. They are usually in denial of even having a problem. I do want to let you know there is hope though. Three of my four children use to use the same drug and all three of them are clean and have been for many many years now. Two of them went to prison and one of them did it on her own. I hope for your sake your mother will do it on her own instead of the hard way. I will keep you and your mother in my prayers.
2007-02-15 18:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by devilgal031948 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bad thing about addicts is that there is no help for them unless they want help.
If it is forced upon them, it does no good.
You know your priorities, your family.
you have to protect them from that influence.
Your mother is a grown woman making her own decisions, and if you expose your family to her influence, only bad things can happen.
If she sincerly wants help, and wants treatment, by all means try to support her.
But if her addiction is too powerful, and recovery is not an interest of hers, then you need, no, HAVE to keep her away.
I'm sure your husband doesn't need her crap any more than your kids do.
2007-02-15 18:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by Mr R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a major city call 211. They are the information and referral line. Get her into a treatment program. This is more than you can handle by yourself, you need professional help because it will take years to correct.
2007-02-15 17:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by Bruce H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only so much you can do,you don't want to stress out too much to endager your baby.The only thing that will help you mom is if she goes to rehab for a while,longer than a couple months,.Really,there's noone that can help her but herself,she has to want to quit before anything.Only thing you can do is advise her to go to rehab.Let her know if she wants to have a part of your family she has to straighten out,first.
2007-02-15 18:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by TH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call "Intervention" the TV show and get her a free ride through rehab (=
2007-02-15 17:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by Amethyst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋