i work from 7 to 6 mon thru wed. and we have him everyother week for a week. He really likes me he would rather be with me then his mom and comes to me before his daddy. My husband always says he was fine before you walked in. And he is only like this when i get home from work like weekends he is fine with me so i was just wondering why he does this?
2007-02-15 09:46:03 · 11 answers · asked by Nikki 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
he also wants Nothing to do with me when i do get home.
2007-02-15 09:52:09 · update #1
My daughter is almost the same way. I'm staying with my parents currently and she has just started this weird thing where when they get home, she will get so excited and run and jumps around, but when she actually sees them, she runs and hides and cries. But throughout the day she will be the happiest you could imagine and will go to my parents before me. I have no clue why she does this, but I think it may just be their age. It could be that "terrible twos".
2007-02-15 10:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by Alene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
their is nothing wrong with the child. some of them behave that way at that age. dont try to bring something like a toy to him everyday tho or you will be sorry later. buttering up the child just makes thangs worse. thats just a phase that child is going through. and the child will get over it. my wife had a 2 year old that she sat with for a while and the kid did the same thing when her mom came to pick her up. when she was here at the house all day she was just sweet and good but when her mom or dad would pick her up she would go crazy. My wife wondered if they were beating that child.(they were not) It made her parents feel really bad. that child did get over that with age.
2007-02-15 17:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sees you as a mother figure for sure. Kids do that. He knows what to do to get your love and attention. And it is mon thru wed that he knows he is not getting the most of it. He knows what he is doing. And personally, I think you should be proud.
But just wait til the mother hears about it.
2007-02-15 17:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry if you find what i have to say upsetting, but I've been through this myself whit my sons' second wife.
first off your rationalization of how "he would rather be with me than his mother" and "he comes to me before his daddy" is really disturbing.
at best you are ONLY a step parent. your involvement with him, at best, should be at a minimum. his parents, his mother and your husband, should be his main care takers.
i think you are over involving yourself with this child.
my advice to you is to back off. he needs to know that daddy is the one that makes his world go around.
i believe that when you come home your changing the mood between the boy and his dad and the baby finds it upsetting.
2007-02-15 18:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all parents get that, it means he's really attached to you. When he sees you come in after an absence, he sorts of realizes you were away for a long time, so he cries. Kids that age don't have much concept of time. My kids went through that stage. They burst into tears when I came to fetch them at the kindergarten and then rushed over to me ... a bit disconcerting.
2007-02-15 17:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by nikita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wish i could give you a really good answer but i dont really have one to solve your problem. But i get the same from my nephew. my sister and my nephew still live with us so hes used to me but recently only sometimes he will scream his head off at me and wont want me at all other days he will put his arms out and get excited. i think kids start to get good memories and this stage so maybe you not being there allday has made him angry so when he sees you he tells you hes angry by crying but kids dont hold grudges so he forgets about it after a short time and is ok with you. hope that helps a little!
2007-02-15 17:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by largeinit343 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anxiety issues. He hates being left alone and may not know it himself. My kids do the same thing, its also because he feels comfortable and what he was holding in all day is now able to come out. Give him a hug and sit and give him five minutes when you come home and you will see it change.
2007-02-15 17:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be attention seeking so he gets more attention, & so you don't go, that's what my niece does, she's fine then when mum comes home she gets emotional, & cries, we figured it was an attention seeking thing... I think I used to do it when I was a child to...
2007-02-15 17:50:36 · answer #8 · answered by idk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he knows what will get him the most attention. He knows that he is comfortable with you, therefore he wants YOU to know that he is hurt when you aren't there with him. It's just his way of letting you know that he is mad when you aren't with him.
2007-02-15 17:51:45 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might not like seeing people walking into doors
2007-02-15 17:55:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋