I met my boyfriend through the internet & after only a few weeks after telling me that he had feelings for me, he came to visit me. He made it clear to me that he did not have a lot of money &that the trip would cost a lot for him but that he really wanted to see me so I offered to help him pay for it. He payed for his ticket here & I payed for everything else while he was here. When he was here, everything was great, we had the best 2 weeks of our lives. But when he got home he slowly became more & more distant. Eventually he told me that he just wants to be friends because he doesnt want a relationship right now; he needs space. I was shocked because I thought he loved me. I've been talking to some of his friends recently & they all say that he is really rich & his dad makes a lot of $$ & basically they think he lied to me about not having the money to come here. I feel really used, both for my money & for intimacy. Am I right to feel this way? Was I used? Did he lie about loving me?
2007-02-15 09:34:02 · 5 answers · asked by rebecca l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It certainly sounds like he lied to you and used you. Forget about him and find someone else. You deserve much better than that.
2007-02-15 09:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where to start, and I'm being honest. I don't know how old you are, but meeting people on the net is a big hit or a bigger miss. And honey you lost to this jerk. I assume he lives far from you? You having to pay for everything should have been a first clue. Good guys don't do that. Personally I don't believe in love at first sight on the net. He got a free vacation, he got sex and anything else he wanted from you. If his friends tell you he's got money he probably does and he is just a low life who does this to women. You need to let it go, we have all been used sometime in our life and just strive not to let it happen again. There is someone out there for you in person or even on the net just be more careful. GOOD LUCK
2007-02-15 17:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me just say first and foremost that if you just met this guy, and he's already being a horses %$#!, then believe me, it's better that you found out now. It would hurt so much more if it happened later on down the road. I have been in relationships that cause more pain than happiness, and believe me it's true when they say that someone who loves you doesn't make you cry(most of the time anyway) When someone really cares, they tell the truth, are kind, and would do almost anything in the world to keep from hurting you!! Cut your losses and be done with him. Stop communicating with him altogether, and if he does like you you'll know..he'll try to contact you.
2007-02-15 17:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I don't think he can truly love you after only a few weeks and if he did, it wouldn't have changed. Men do lie for sex, not all men but most men.
2007-02-15 17:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by Martha T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to be upset that guy is a jerk and a total loser for doing that to you. you can do so much better.
2007-02-15 17:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by ndbt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋