Basically i don't care how sad it sounds and i don't care admitting it. I don't have much luck with the fairer sex but it is not due to a lack of trying. I am what would you might consider a quietly confident guy. Someone who in their body language displays confidence but also someone who is not likely to be very opinionated. Believe me, I have opinions, i am just not likely to shout them out in a brash way.
Due to my being the way i am though as i said whereas i can get girlfriends, i'm not the kind of guy to bowl up to a girl in a club and spin her some line. Contrastly, I am more comfortable waiting for all the signs of attraction like eye contact and then i might approach the girl and ask her name and if she's having a good night. That is more my style. I am more of a gentleman than an in your face kinda guy but this is just my nature and has been this way since birth. This is making me unhappy as this nice guy approach isn't working apparently. Can you offer any advice girls?
2007-02-15 09:31:19 · 24 answers · asked by bueller82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As i said i am confident but not the type of guy to bowl over to a group of girls, much to my chagrin. I would never comprimise my morals or act like a bad boy as that is something im not but seemingly my nicey nice approach has done nothing for me. Can i please ask ladies are girls interested in nice guys or do you have to be more in your face to make an impression?
I have alot of love to give but because of my nature i am so used to, i can't really get this across in my nature. I am confident as i said but whenever im in a club all i see is guys bowling over to girls spinning lines. I long to have the confidence they do without changing who i am.
Is there a way this nature i have is attractive to women?
Should i try and be more bad boy like?
2007-02-15 09:35:44 · update #1
You sound fine to me
2007-02-15 09:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mate I was thinking the same a few months ago, If I should try and be a bad boy, but I just could not stop being nice (it is the way I was brought up).
But recently I have found the girl off my dreams and it is amazing, trust me there are girls out there looking for nice guys!
I am now 33 and it is my first proper relationship for about ten years, so as you can imagine I was getting to the end off my tether thinking nice guys would not win, but now with my new found confidence in women, I suggest you keep looking or play it cool and wait for the women to get fed up with bastards and come running to you my fellow nice guy.
2007-02-16 10:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by Loader2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quietly confident but displays confidence visually? not openly verbally opinionated but has, possible, strong opinions if pushed to reveal them? do you know how you are? you must be giving mixed signals. how have you got girlfriends? blind dates, through friends, long working relationships??? or ever out on the town? some times the girl is shy and gives no signals, other than being near you. or helping you get together with someone else even though it kills her(shed rather be mates than lose you). signals can be miss read, or not intentional(IE friendly). ask a sister or close female girlfriend(one who will never Fancy u in a million yrs) what is a nice approach from a stranger. nice girls get drunk in town so clubs are not the place to meet the wife, usually.! whats the rush, enjoy life, be yourself and don't lie.!
2007-02-15 18:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by mole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a club isn't the best place anyway - and the sometimes the best way to look attractive is to feel attractive, so are there any women you see near home or work that find attractive, why not just smile at them, them then the next time you see them, if they smile back you know they would at least like to be friendly and you can keep the smiling for a while until you decide to say hello, then maybe ask her out for lunch or coffee - not dinner, its less formal. Everyone likes to feel attractive and if you smile first, then they will notice you.
2007-02-15 17:38:33 · answer #4 · answered by Em 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that is an really sweet way to get a girl... YOu know like how you sed your style is too see if there is eye contact and then you chat her up... i think that is basically the best way to approach a girl!!!! This way you don't have any fear of rejection and stuff..... I think that is the best way!!! Good on ya. But you know if that doesn't work don't change the way you are and act all bad boy type.. that is just silly... Be yourself and you will meet the right kinda girls :D :D
2007-02-15 20:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by NiceGirlRee;) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooh you sound like a really nice guy and I dont see what you are worrying about. You say you can get girlfriends, but maybe you are looking for a serious relationship. It will come, you will fall in love and I hope you will have a very happy life together, just dont be in too much of a hurry and dont change the way you are. If I wasn't happily married already I would go for your type!
2007-02-15 17:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by mistickle17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way should you change! Don't be a bad boy because you think that they get more women! Seriously... women like men who are sensitive and sweet. They are the type of men we like to meet. Unfortunatly we are often swept off our feet by sweet talking bad boys and then end up getting hurt. I've been there, done that and bought the t-shirt, mug and bumpersticker! I now have a guy who is the sweetest and kindest man I know and you sound alot like him. Don't fret too much! Try not to look for love and then it'll find you when you least expect it! :D
2007-02-15 18:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by Siany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A club is not the right place to meet girls, you need to go where you meet them on a one to one basis, like work or the gym or anywhere where you can just chat normally, even walking the dog. You sound like a nice guy and you should not change your image someone will turn up who loves you for you. Good luck to you.
2007-02-15 18:12:05 · answer #8 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like the kind of guy every girl would like to meet. But meeting girls at nightclubs is poor. It depend on the type of club. If its super cool then bad but if its the kind of place where chart music is played (cope) people seem to be more relaxed! Also girls do not like to see you having chatted up someone else. But keep going as if a girl like you then what ever you say will not matter.
2007-02-15 17:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at last a gentlemen u seem to have a lpt of respect for a woaman i think yopu try to hard just relax and if you see a woman u like go up and come out with a cheesy line andthen sorry i know thats chessy but i could nt think of any other way to come over u just ned aice breaker that woman will laugh and then u relax u come acrossas iw ant a girlfriend this maybe why u no getting too far with a woaman or u just going for ythe wrong type of woman
2007-02-15 17:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by dd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fella thats exactely like me lol ah we have a bad time dont we pal lol but then when we do get someone we have a really good time because the lady isnt used to a guy like us because the style that we are is dying out fast, but then we get dumped and wonder what weve done wrong? lol naf isnt it lol
but ladies and to davey as well please tell us whats wrong with the nice guy stance and being mature because at the end of the day isnt a fundamental thing that you want in a guy - respect and affection (not dictated by willys) easy to talk to, funny and love - which comes from maturity?
2007-02-15 17:39:31 · answer #11 · answered by Music fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋