one of my guy friends and i were cool like always until quite recently he asked me to do something that completely shocked me. he wanted me to take my clothes off for him and that he desired to have me. that request came right out of no-where i had never expected to hear something like that from him. so i said NO to him and now things are not very good in our friendship anymore. i asked if he would speak to me ever again after i refused him and i wasnt given an answer. i dont want to lose my friend but i wont do what he keeps asking me to do. i respect my body too much for that and we're supposed to be just friends. now why do i feel like i'm a no-good friend?!
2007-02-15 09:28:32 · 42 answers · asked by evanescent_eclipse 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is trying to get you to do something you don't want to do, then I don't think he is much of a friend. Move on.
2007-02-15 09:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by Harry Taco 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not a no-good friend. Your a person with your own morals and values who deserves to be respected. You should never be pressured into doing something you don't want and you always have the right to say no. You should not be made to feel guilty, you should be applauded for standing up for yourself. He is not being a friend by making demands of you, especially of a sexual nature. Don't worry about him. Either he will realize what he has done or he won't and there is nothing you can do about it.
2007-02-15 09:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing to say no! If you were ready for that then you would have said yes. But since you respect your body you were right to say no! And if he doesnt talk to you again...oooo well..he's not a good friend then!! He shouldn't have ask you that and he should have respected your answer like a true friend would!! So don't feel bad you did the right thing and it's his lost of a good friend.
2007-02-15 09:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right in refusing. You just need to explain to HIM that it wasn't HIM. Tell him you respect your body too much to get into that right now with ANYONE. And you respect your friendship and didn't want anything to mess that up. Let him know not to take it like a rejection, but as a devotion to your friendship. Good luck, peer pressure usually comes from those closest to us. It's good for sticking with your morals.
2007-02-15 09:34:32 · answer #4 · answered by teashy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the perfect thing. obviously if you were so shocked by it then you hadnt been thinking of him like that & obviously he was thinking of you like that. & if you were good friends & he doesnt want to be that anymore then he was using you anyway. he has no respect for you. It may be hard because you were so cool but honestly, you have to let him go if he just wants your body. you are very strong & its good that you respect your body too much for that.
but also.. you should probably talk to him about all this.. if its possible. make some sort of conclusion.
2007-02-15 09:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie the respect you have for your body should be the respect you have for yourself. The fact that he would even ask you to do something like that shows that he doesn't want your friendship but something more, he doesn't respect you. You have a way out. Don't attempt to talk to him again, don't call him don't even mention his name. You guys are not friends, you didn't do anything wrong. He crossed the line.So drop him good luck sweetie!
2007-02-15 09:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if u feel bad about telling him No then it's because ur losing your mind. I wouldn't ask one of my girl-friends to do something like that without some reason. But if I did, and she most likely said no, I wouldn't feel bad about it. If anything he should be worried that he is a no-good friend. And u don't have any idea why he did it? There was no implication that he was interested?
2007-02-15 09:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, you were totally right to say no to him! You are in control of you & you choose who you are with & who you are involved with intimately... You were right, he was wrong, which he should realise. If he really wanted to be with you he could have gone about it a nicer way, not such an upfront sleazey way. You said you feel like a no-good friend, but friends dont be with each other... He should be grovelling & apologizing to you, Good luck whatever happeneds, maybe he needs some time to grow up a bit & figure out whats right & wrong...
2007-02-15 09:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by idk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman always has the right to say 'No' to any man if he requests anything she does not want to do. Good for you, sticking up for your moral ethics. You should be feeling very proud of being true to yourself and not feeling like a bad friend. Your "friend (if you want to call him that) made the big mistake, not you. You are going to meet people like this and believe me they are not real 'friends' in any sense of the word.
2007-02-15 09:36:11 · answer #9 · answered by sistervoodoo2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had every right to say NO to him. And keep saying it too. He is not a good friend to you if he don't want to talk to you cuz you refused sex. He probally was only friends with you to have sex. Think about it. Cuz now he won't talk to you. You was a good friend but he was not. Im glad you said no. And be careful being around him along now he may be one of those weird guys that if they cain't have it no one can. No matter how nice he is.
2007-02-15 09:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by everlasting_matchstick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you were right....I mean, honestly! Let's be real. What the heck kind of friend would ask something like that? Not a very good one. This dude sounds creepy. You need to drop him because if he just wants to have sex with you he's not a true friend!
2007-02-15 09:37:59 · answer #11 · answered by iluvrnb954 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋