My boy-friend is so sweet and everything to me...but sometimes he gets really mad because he has a really bad temper....and sometimes he makes me really mad when he gets all upset and yells at me and stuff/ what should i do?
2007-02-15 09:22:42 · 19 answers · asked by Tori 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't have to put up with his bad temper, and his good behavior doesn't excuse it. He might even be manic-depressive - happy one moment and raging the next.
Tell him that his temper is making this relationship really unhealthy for both of you, and you can't continue the relationship unless he makes a serious effort to control his temper and deal with his anger in a positive way. If he loves you, he'll be willing to work on it to save the relationship; but if he's the sort of guy that won't even try to become a better man to keep your love, then he's not worth keeping.
2007-02-15 09:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend has a really bad temper but so do I, when we argue it's funny but at the same time it's not. He gets pissed off because of something I did, I yell at him because he gets pissed off. I don't like to curse normally but when I'm upset I do. We end up screaming at the top of our lungs, and then all of a sudden everything is normal again. No matter how much we fight, not once have I ever felt that he's disrespected me. If you feel like that then you don't need to be with him because it's only going to get worse. Things are getting between he and I, we're both learning to control our tempers more. Things should be getting better not worse. Which way are you guys heading?
2007-02-15 09:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him knock it off!! or something!! If he loves you...he wouldnt be yelling at you in the first place...but since he has a bad temper you should just try to calm him down...or just give him a hug when he gets really mad//angry//upset
2007-02-15 09:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your boyfriend that you will not take it anymore, that he needs to stop getting so angry at you, or (then say a consequence you are willing to carry out). Threats always work if they care enough about you. Not bad threats, just something that will bring to their attention that they are hurting you. So, make the confrontation, but be careful not to cause him to lose his temper during it, so that you really have a good conversation about the problem. Good luck!
2007-02-15 09:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by Realgirl_V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Notice that he gets this bad temper when you try to tell him what to do or if you interject into the conversation or when you dont do what he says.
Well now you know what to do and what not to do.
And when it does happen..just step back(physically) say im sorry and be quiet with your head facing down and let him let it all out.
I aggree with Lotsofluv's response too!
2007-02-15 09:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by Triskelion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer well. Girl thinks when they start relationship with a guy that they would change the guy habits. But, its wrong perception. The moment you gonna change the guy you might not get time to live your life. I mean death. Your doubt is your answer. Make your choice, it may make your life or ruin your life.
2016-05-24 04:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to do whatever you can to keep him calm or to calm him down
But if he keeps this up then I would break up with him because no man is worth it
I hope it has never come to the point where he has hit you because if it has then you should leave him immediately
2007-02-15 09:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by nette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd get out of ther before he gets violent because of his "REALLY" bad temper,
2007-02-15 09:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Twinkle♥Toes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him know that he may need to see a doctor for his anger. He needs to find out the cause of why it is so bad. Once he can discover that, he will be better....Insist he sees someone.
2007-02-15 09:25:47 · answer #9 · answered by feather-girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him space. Talk to him when he's not upset.
KEY: If you know he is going to get mad, just say "babe I know you're mad right now, so I'm going to back up, when you feel better and calm then talk to me."
That works awesome for me! I can't stand arguing and it's dumb so I just let it go and give him space.
2007-02-15 09:25:56 · answer #10 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋