i live with my boyfriend, and recently ive realized that i dont enjoy having sex with him anymore. i do it to make him happy. when i spend time with him, my mind is elsewhere. what can i do to get back into things?
2007-02-15 09:21:12 · 14 answers · asked by Lips-of-an-angel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing, it is his fault. He probably listened to you when you say you want a nice guy that treats you well and now he rolls over and doesn't provide a challenge for you.
Dump him and go find someone you really want, not what you are supposed to want.
I know it doesn't make sense.
2007-02-15 09:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look deep into your heart. Ask yourself what you really want from this relationship! It could be the flame has gone out and both of you need to do something to re-ignite that flame. Go somewhere for a romantic getaway. Have a candle light dinner for two. If none of these things work, you may want to consider staying friends and moving on with your life.
2007-02-15 17:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring another woman into the bedroom. Might want to get a vibrator or dildo or "The Rabbit" (My wife's personal favorite to use on another woman). Trust me, once you and the other woman get started with each other (and women really know how to please women) your boyfriend will be very appreciative. Might even record so you'll have the video to enjoy together any time you want.
Let me know how it goes.
LiL EarlE
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2007-02-15 17:25:11 · answer #3 · answered by LiL EarlE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, it would appear there is no life in this relationship. You might need to revisit your priorities in life and where you want to be in the near future.
2007-02-15 17:25:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about, try for a little longer but if you still feel the same way then it's time to move on!! Your hurting the both of you by faking it.
2007-02-15 17:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by Lilikoi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's life. it's normal. you might want to try new activities (not sexual) and consider him your best friend.
don't try to think about how to make a new life with him or anything else, or about starting with a new guy. just believe what's around you is the best. and believe in you love(if you do).
More you worry about it, worse it will be.
2007-02-15 17:34:36 · answer #6 · answered by Sally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change something in your relationship, try something different in your sexual life, perhaps a theme or a sensual massage, everyone loves a message!
Instead of eatting at home, go to a really nice restaurant...
2007-02-15 17:25:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds more like it was lust and not love, but you can try to think of and do the kinds of things that you used to like so much about him. not just in the bedroom. talking to him and thinking about what about what you really saw in him before can't hurt either
2007-02-15 17:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by randini692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to spice things up in the bedroom i know how u feel
2007-02-15 17:24:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to figure out what's wrong with you. he doesn't have the problem, it's you. maybe u are bored with the relationship.
2007-02-15 17:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋