What do I do about this girl? Please help!?

Question

Ok, there's this really mean girl (I'm in school) and she keeps spreading rumors that I like this one guy. He then said that I wrote him a Valentine's card and put kisses and hugs on it. I don't want to talk to my teacher about it because she hates me. Also she started a rumor that I sent a carnation to this one guy when I didn't. Can anyone please give me some good advice on what to do to get her to stop being mean to me. Please don't say anything that would get me in trouble with my teacher.

Oh yeah, ine time she even called my shoes ugly.

oh yeah and the principle hates me too. I'm not bad in school I just am really outgoing and some teachers hate that.

Answer 1

Hey packer fan so am i!!!! but really all you can do is let it go... you want to know why??? because people have to make the choice and to believe me or them... and I remember have that problem and I ingore it.. and if people come to me and said is that true and I would say no... and they have the choice... They can do what ever they want to do to make me look bad and I am not going to do anything about it... and guess what more and more people like wow he very nice and never talk about other two who very nasty about talking crap about that guy... ummm... so, think postive smiling...

Answer 2

Mean people will always be mean there is generaly no helping them. If she spreads rumors then ignore them, by letting them get to you you only encourage and reward their efforts. If you don't react they will beome disinterested. However you can also simply choose to beat them down. For instance I presume that the rumor about the carnation was supposed to demonstrate that you like this guys as well. Make a subtle note sometime preferably right to her that carnations most often represent misfortune and grief in western cultures and that they would be a really bad choice to send to a guy you liked(don't even metion the rumor).
On another thought this could be a manifestation of her competativeness maby you have something she doesn't. Maybe she likes a guy who's totally into you or something. Once you ind the cause the sollution is never far behind.

Answer 3

Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do the make her or anyone else quit being mean. You can, however, become a hard target. Ignore her. If she starts a rumor, don't bother with fighting it. Instead, when someone asks you about it, say something like "and you believed her? Interesting." or " I always find it fascinating when some has nothing better in their life to do than take an active interest in my life." Then walk away and let the other figure out how dumb they look spreading rumors. As for your teacher, do the same if necessary. Don't let people run your life simply by talking. You can live above all of that easily.

Answer 4

I doubt your teacher hates you - I know a lot of teachers, and while they may get exasperated with certain students, they are willing to help them out if there is a real problem. Talk to your teacher (or principal or dean or school counselor, they really are not so scary, and they do want to help you if you'll let them). Tell them the girl is spreading rumors about you, and actually forging your name on things. They will be able to mediate between you and the mean girl and find out why she is being so mean and convince her to stop.
Meanwhile, don't stoop to her level by doing anything mean or petty. Just let people know that she is making up stories about you, and none of them are true. If they know how mean she is, they will believe you over her.

Answer 5

Allot of times people when are young they are trying to get a rise out of you. Don't let her. Or try being nice to her and then when she continues to be mean to you she will feel guilty and maybe someday stop. Sometimes when people are young or even older people are just plain heartless and the only way they can be stopped is to fight fire with fire. So if all the good happy stuff doesn't work then do the same to her. Or threaten to beat her up or something. Sometimes that is the only way. Good luck!

Answer 6

Well... we've all been there in some way or another and as much as you might hate this answer it seems to be the truth. I know it hurts to be made fun of and to have someone always being mean to you, but you know you didn't do all that to that boy right? And if you don't have a crush on him, then it shouldn't really bother you. She's probably just acting like that to get a reaction out of you, and it sounds like its working. Just ignore her and ignore her little comments and see if she eventually backs off. It's hard to do i know, but you can't act if there's no audience right?

Answer 7

its tough really because you should really go see your teacher or a different one maybe. but personally id start a rumour about her see what she makes of that. give her a taste of her own medicine. Or confront her in front of alot of people, stand up to her ask her why shes behaving like a 2 year old, just make her feel really small. also i know this maybe easier said than done but think of the saying "sticks and stones love" if you let her see your bothered by it then shes winning, whenever its mentioned just play along with it, everyone will soon be onto something else.

Answer 8

When people spread rumours about someone that aren't true, that you did something when you did not do, they want you to REACT and thus your action/reaction will justify that it is true. Such people like to relish the fact that they can make someone else's life miserable.
Don't give them the satisfaction and ignore the *****.
Have you watch the movie "Mean Girls" well... I think it might help. So what if she says.... -- why should you care. Maybe she sent it. but don't tell people that or that will make people think it is true that you did send it.
Find her weakness and work it. Good Luck.

Answer 9

Kill her with kindness. Tell her what a great friend she is. Invite her to your house. Tell others how nice she is. Since she is manipulative and ugly, these tactics will confuse her and she will stop in 90 days. Good luck. I used to be a teacher and yes, there are teachers out to get students. How stupid is that? But true.

Answer 10

If it really does bother you, go to the office and ask to speak to the principal or vice principal. They will not get mad at you, they will deal with the problem. Spreading false rumors about people is a form of bullying. But if you really want to stand up to her ... ignore her, and let her know that your better than her and more mature and her gossip about you doesn't affect you.