me and my boyfriend of four years have recently been thinking and looking at houses to move into together. i told him today that i needed some time alone for a while to figure out myself and make sure that this is what i relaly want before we live together. i love him but im not sure he is the one for me just yet. im only 18. do u think i should go out and find myself first? also i dont want to go sleep with anyone else so do u think its to much to sleep with him when i want to just so i dont do someone else? or just leave it alone for a while.. i mean if i keep doing it with him but we arent together will i ever have time to be single and figure out if this is what i relaly want. please help.
2007-02-15 09:13:19 · 3 answers · asked by xxbrandy87xx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're already questioning youreself and doubting it then you shouldn't move in with him. You have to go with you're gutt feeling.
It's not a wrong thing, you're actually doing the right thing for you. Don't feel pressured to do something you're not ready to do. Moving in with someone is a big thing and it could only go one way or the other...good or bad. I wouldn't really go with age. Go with what you feel inside and you could never go wrong. Personally and I think you are still young and really don't know what's out there...that's just my opinion.
Go with you're heart and you're first instinct. =) and you'll be fine!
2007-02-15 09:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you aren't sure about moving in with him...don't. Buying a house is a big decision and responsibility. As far as needing some space, in my experience that is not the solution if there are problems in your relationship. You need to talk things out, Why do you think he's "not the one"? And if you are going to decide to see other people than you should not keep sleeping with him. It sounds to me like you are 18 and you aren't ready for something serious. You need to tell him that. You might not want to hear this but you can't have your cake and eat it too. A relationship will not work if you see other people and have sex with him.
2007-02-15 17:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by NJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to sleep with other people to find yourself...
2007-02-15 17:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋