My brother keeps yelling at me for random reasons. He yelled at my for not turning off the exhaust in the bathroom when he could. He screamed at me when I lost a McDonald's giftcard that only have about $5 left on it. He keeps calling me stupid, and a *****. He told my mom that he hates me and my older sister, because she didn't pick him up from school when it's not her responsibility and he could have gotten a ride. I do not know what is wrong with him. He is usually very moody, but he's been over the top lately. When he yells at me he makes me feel useless. He doesn't care about what I have to say, or how I feel. It's just all about him yelling and insulting me. Should I just get over it? I can't bear the feeling of someone I love more than anyone will ever know yelling at me and hating me. I care about him so much. What should I do?
2007-02-15 09:00:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can only assume that he is in his teeanage years like you. The hormones are probably raging and changing daily. Guys can be total Drama Kings, just like girls can be total Drama Queens. Don't worry, he'll change as he grows a little older. My sister went through a horrible, mean stage. At 17 she has completely changed and is very nice, and sweet.
But in the meantime, I'd tell your brother that you love him, but you won't talk to him, or be anywhere near him when he treats you like that. Tell him you won't do anything for him either. Tell him you'll have no desire to do anything for him or with him if he makes you feel like dirt. He'll figure out that if no one wants to talk to him or be around him, he may have to adjust his attitude.
2007-02-15 09:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it personally!
The following may help you to figure out what's going on,
or at least how better to manage the situation ...
Understanding Mood Disorders
- Tormented Minds
- Living With a Mood Disorder
- Hope for Sufferers
> How Others Can Help
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/1/8/article_01.htm
When Someone You Love Has a Mental Disorder
- Recognize symptoms.
- Become informed.
- Pursue treatment.
- Encourage the sufferer to seek help.
- Avoid placing blame.
- Have realistic expectations.
- Stay Connected.
- Consider the needs of other family members.
- Promote good health practices.
> Take care of yourself.
- Some Warning Signs of Mental Disorders.
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/9/8/article_01.htm
How Can You Make Peace With Others? :
- Wars With Words--Why Are They Hurtful?
- The Benefits of Making Peace
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2005/3/1/article_01.htm
Should I Apologize? :
- Why Is It So Hard to Apologize?
- Apologizing--A Key to Making Peace
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2002/11/1/article_01.htm
You might consider sharing some of them with your/his parents, as well. It's OK to print them out if you include their copyright & source info.
Advanced Search (can be used to find future-modified URLs) http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm
2007-02-15 17:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough situation you have. Tell him how you feel. Tell him look I love you and respect you but I cant keep allowing you to treat me this way. Even if you are joking its getting old and its not funny. Dont make being my brother so hard for me or I guess I cant spend as much time with you as we use to. You're going to push me away from you and if thats what you want thats whats going to happen. Make sure he understands that you're very serious.
2007-02-15 17:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by Smarty Pants™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
h There could be a million things going on with him, maybe he feels out-numbered in the house. My first impression tough was to ask if he is doing drugs.
2007-02-16 10:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by al b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably going through a stage in his life where he thinks nobody cares about him so he is taking it out on you. Be nice to him and ask him what can you do to make his life easier.
2007-02-15 17:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by lara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hav known few people who r been insulted by other
and they take it calmly
but remove their frustration on loved ones
even ur brother is facing same problem
he is mouse at school
but thinks himself lion in the house
dont mind more
he loves u anyway
2007-02-15 17:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by celestial_guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 2 brothers and they have been like that to me for years! once yall grow up some more things will change. i know it is hard to but try to not react at all to what he is saying to you. it will p.i.s.s. him off more but he will soon realize that acting like that will get him nowhere. and tell him that if he would like to talk to you he IS going to be respectful or you will walk away. and you have to follow through with that.
2007-02-15 17:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by melissapinkfloyd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just give him some space and if it continues try talking to him this could be caused by many different things and I guarantee you it is NOT your fault
2007-02-15 17:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by napoleansck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of trying to talk to him...back off of him. you need to show him (thorugh your actions) that you refuse to take his abuse. don't talk to him. if he walks into the room...you find another room to go into. if he starts yelling at you over little things...then you simply ignore him. don't go back and correct what he wants you to correct (especially if he could have kept that five dollar gift card). leave things as YOU leave them. he has two hands. if he wants something done right then he can do that himself.
2007-02-15 19:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by cfalways 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would beat the stuffing out of him....siblings fight...it happens...tell him to check himself in the mirror and ask him if he realizes that he's hurting the people who love him....
see what his reaction is...unless he's a complete psycho he'll see how wrong he is
2007-02-15 17:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋