This guy has been insisting to go out with him..so yesterday he kep on insisting and insisting and insisting so I finally said yes...BAD IDEA! especially since it was valentine's day! I'm really not interested in him and i told him before going to the restaurant that I didn't want a relationship right now so he agreed that we would just be talking. So at the restaurant he told me that he thought I was someone special to him and so on... he wanted to cuddle and hug but i just kept on avoiding him so yesterday was barely our first date and he was calling me nonstop in the night..in the morning he called me again and we went out to lunch again today...Again i told him that we're just friends but he's already like planning our "next dates"..
HELP! I'm not interested in him..I don't want nothing to do with him..i don't want a relationship right now..i just want to focus on my studies...but he keeps on calling and obsessing over me.
what do can i do to make him stop liking me?
2007-02-15 08:50:12 · 37 answers · asked by ♥ mars♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Put your foot down. Just tell him straight out, "I don't want to date you." Emphasize that. There's no point in trying to get him not to like you, so long as you're honest. You allowed yourself to be manipulated by his wishful thinking. It's not a good idea to keep playing along with it. Ultimately, he'll have to adjust to the idea, and may just end up not liking you in the process. Tough for him. All of us have dealt with rejection at one time or another. He'll get over it. The worst thing to do is to lead him on, and you are doing that unintentionally. Good luck. If he persists, tell him you'll block his number. If that doesn't work, tell him he's overstepping his boundaries and there will be worse consequences.
2007-02-15 08:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell him your not interested. If that doesn't waork you can always try being a bitc*. It's messed up but what can do? Some guys don't get the hint. I don't think you shouldn't of gone out with him because I think he took it as a sign. You know, maybe if he keeps on eventually you will break down. Some guys are like that, they do not take no for an answer and those guys you have to be careful with...they become stalkers and you don't need that. So, tell him how it is and if that don't work be a *****.
2007-02-15 08:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy but us guys all react differently to bugging off. Not all of us react the same which makes it difficult for me to give you an answer that will work. I'll try though. I don't do it like other persistent guys do, like stalkers, note senders, flower buyers, and money givers, guys try all sorts of things to win a girls heart. I just take a hint and go away. I don't know why some guys find it awesomely difficult to just get the hell away from a girl that doesn't want to be bothered by an admirer. Duh. If I was a girl and a guy kept at me after telling him repeatedly to keep the *uc* away from, I'd simply go up to him and handle it like a tomboy, and I'd sock the guy all up, and if I couldn't do I'd find someone who could, and then, I'd probably feel bad for using such an approach, but I'd get over it seeing that that would serve as a deterent for guys who just can't take no for an answer. There is one more approach that I believe would be more applicable. You take a guy and another girl who you trust to go to that guy and tell him to keep away from you or you will call the police. That'll work and if it doesn't you can go to court and get a restraining order, and then, if that guy continues to bother and annoy you, then he definitely will be in violation of that restraining order, and guess what? He'll go to jail and get raped by the big boys in the big house and when that guy gets out, guess what? He'll never bother you again.
2007-02-15 09:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Honey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called PROTECTIVE ORDER.
Let him down easy first, with the understanding that you will take out a writ against him if he doesn't leave you alone.
Or, following the pattern you've started, keep dating him. By the time you're 8 months pregnant with his 5th child you will have worked up the backbone to let him know that you aren't interested in starting up a relationship with him and want to concentrate on your studies.
Final option, move in with me. If he ever manages to find you, I'll gladly beat him to an inch of his life and have him taken away. You can focus on your studies in between having our children.
2007-02-15 09:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gees, this guy sounds like a pain in the butt! The next time he suggests a date, lie that you're busy. If he insists, DO NOT keep up contact. Don't return his calls, IMs, or emails. Avoid him as much as possible. If he talks to you, or asks you a question, give simple answers, as not to instigate a conversation. Your best bet is to tell this guy to leave you alone. Hope this works- R.W.F.
2007-02-15 09:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the first problem was you said yes. Now there are only 2 ways out of this. Find a guy you know that he doesn't and understands the just friends part, and act like you 2 are dating. Or option b would be to bang his best friend. I prefer option a myself unless you like his best friend.
2007-02-15 09:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him stop liking you. In his mind, you are on a pedestal on top of the world. But be honest. You say you want to focus on your study. So focus on it. Don't say yes when he insists, tell him you got to study. Turn off your phone and dont return his phone calls. Don't be a ***** but dont lead him on. He'll get tired and eventually give up... Hopefully.
Carpe Diem
2007-02-15 08:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by jason46242003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me last year, a guy from work. I made the mistake of going out with him one time to try to be friends, but he could not get the hint I didn't want anything more. So one night, while at a bar with people from work, he tried to kiss me at a table full of co-workers and I jumped about 10 feet in the air and then yelled at him in front of everyone. Worked pretty well. He won't even look at me now.
Good Luck to you!
2007-02-15 08:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marry him.
No seriously you will just have to tell him rather bluntly that as a couple there is no future. If he can't accept that you only want to be friends then you cannot even remain friends.
trying to break it to him gently won't work so be brutal about it, and the sooner it's done the easier it will be on both of you.
2007-02-15 08:56:45 · answer #9 · answered by Vogon Poet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very GENTLE with his feelings. Don't stomp all over him just because you don't like him and you can. Talk with him and say I think your a nice guy and your sweet but I don't have any interest in going out with you. I hope we can be friends. Tell him not to call you anymore if you think it is annoying.
2007-02-15 08:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋