Maybe this is a question for the men? Is it normal for my boyfriend, whom I live with, to go out with his friends a couple of times a month (2 or 3)? I want to know if I am being unreasonable. I don't care if he goes out, it is the frequency of it that is bothering me.
2007-02-15 08:42:09 · 22 answers · asked by Meadow Soprano 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He only goes out 2 or 3 times a month? And for the rest of those days he's with you? I think that seems like a reasonable amount of time spent with friends..
2007-02-15 08:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get curious when my bf spends too much time with me and not his friends! A few times a month is more than reasonable. Every night or every other night would be suspicious behavior. It's healthy to spend a little time apart, especially if you live together. Or maybe I just enjoy my personal space a little more than most. Either way, I still think it's nothing to worry about at 2-3 times a month.
2007-02-15 08:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its normal. Men sometimes just need a little guy time just like girls. I dont think that 2-3 times a month is much. Its less than once a week. Dont worry. If it really bothers you then ask if other girls are going and if you can go too.
2007-02-15 08:46:32 · answer #3 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl a couple times a month is nothing, but as long as he is taking you out a couple times a month too. If he taking care of home and that's your only gripe, leave that man alone. Men need to go out with their friends and hang out, to get some time away from you and to just hang with the fellas. As long as you don't suspect he lying or trying to sneak around, let him go. He comes back home to you, so what is the problem? Don't you go out with your friends? and if not that's why you bothered by him going out with his friends, because you sitting home with idle time to think about what fun he is out having and other stuff. Letting your man go out with his friends is ok, and it shows him you are not insecure, jealous and that you trust him. He is a grown man and if you tell him no, he will go anyways and if he does stay home, he will resent you and think you trying to keep him from his friends, and eventually his pride will make him rebel like a teenager does when their parents tell them no. So my advise is, don't trip, as long it's not everyday and when he come home he smells like a woman, you good. This is not something worth picking a fight over and bringing unneccasary drama into your home. All the best.
2007-02-15 08:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by TRUTH HURTZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! unreasonable definitely... I am going through that problem right now... I need my space and I think of it rather selfish for her to always want me there and no where else... stick with 2 or three times a month and realize that is a VERY small amount for a man to get out... Be careful how you approach his time out, he may find it restraining and want out.
Good luck with your relationship.
2007-02-15 08:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by ajn451 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 or 3 times a month? I wouldn't consider that frequent. I wouldn't even consider 2 or 3 times a week to be frequent. If anything, I would be more concerned he's not seeing his friends enough. People have to have their space.
2007-02-15 08:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's only going out a couple times a month? You need to get over it. He's going to want to see his friends. It's ridiculous for you to say that 2 to 3 times is too many. Your his girlfriend, not his warden.
2007-02-15 08:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are both in your 20's, it's not that uncommon. Don't hesitate to go out with your girlfriends. The questions is, where is he going? To dance bars? That's a total meat market. If he's going to sports bars or dive bars or bowling, that doesn't seem as suspicious. Are you allowed to go with?
During my dating years (i'm married now), they had me go with most of the time. That's because I could enjoy playing darts, pool, or watching a game.
Ask him if you can come with, why should he mind? You could always bring a friend with..
2007-02-15 08:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 or 3 a month?? I wouldnt complain unless is was 2 or 3 times a week! :)
2007-02-15 08:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend gets upset with me for doing things that I have always done. That is unreasonable. You can't expect someone to change. If he didn't used to go out, and now he does, that's different.
2007-02-15 08:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋