The guy is really sweet, caring, respect me, love me for what i am, and his always there for me, make me happy, make me feel special, God fearing, but when we make love there's something holding me back. maybe because i think its not right, im not attarcted to him when where making love. i can do it but once in awhile maybe not all the time. But I do really love him, i'm so confuse, i can see myself with me for the next years of my life because i know he wil be a great husband. Sometimes i ovrcome make love because i think its not important for me, the most important is he treat me well, love me so much, and he never done anything that will hurt my feelings. Please be my advisor guys....Thank you
2007-02-15 08:38:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are not married and you believe that sex before marriage is wrong...then that is most likely the culprit. By giving him sex before marriage it is as though you devalue a wonderful from God because you are not building anticipation and waiting for the wedding night. If it bothers you that much talk to him about how you feel, and hope that he respects your feelings... nomatter how hard it is, you have to put honoring GOD first in your life and step out in faith knowing that he will bring you through his perfect will. God Bless and Good Luck!
"He said to them all, anyone who would come after me must deny himself daily and take up his cross and follow me." Luke 9:23
"And you will hear a voive say, "This is the way;turn around and walk here." ~ Isiah 30:21
"Direct my footsteps according to your word; lket no sin rule over me. Redeem me from the opression of men, that I may obey your precepts!" ~ Psalm 119:133-134
2007-02-15 08:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by GodsGrl4Real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, make sure he knows how you feel before you go any farther in your relationship. Next, if you DO get married, you need to realize how important sex IS to a man!! If they don't feel desired by their woman, they will feel defeated and worthless in every other part of their lives. Knowing this, it is important for you to give him sex now and then, even if it's not the most important thing in your life. Make sure you let him know you LOVE him, and that your lack of desire isn't his fault. Maybe the two of you should see a counsellor, or a sex therepist too. Good luck!
2007-02-15 16:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by raerae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can be in love with somebody who you are not physically attracted to. Usually love overcomes those kinds of feelings, but in this case either you dont love him as much as you think you do and something about him is repulsing you, or else you might have something else going on that has nothing to do with him at all that affects your sex life in general. You should try to find a counselor to be evaluated for that. Sorry I cant help out more.
2007-02-15 16:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ash S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems that your feelings are so pure and you think that sex is something bad. You should try to make love with your boyfriend and feel it as being connected with him in a different level.Try to create a romantic atmospere and treat you more tenderly, maybe then passion will come out.Maybe something from your past have made you feel its not right or he hasn't found ways to satisfy you..if love exists you will find the way.
2007-02-15 16:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by smaragda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I'm inlove with the guy but it turns me off when we make love!!?" Then you don't love him. It's plain to see that you are in love with the idea of being in love. You're doing neither one of you any favors by staying in this relationship, in fact it's bascially a lie. Are you willing to build a married life on a lie? What kind of a marriage do you think you will have?
2007-02-15 16:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex is very important in a relationship. if you don't have that connection, how can you marry him? You need to get to the root of the problem. is it something he is not doing? If so, you need to tell him what you need.
2007-02-15 16:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax, maybe you can teach eachother some tricks then heat it up a bit. tell him what you want and ask what he wants.
but good thing is you love eachother, but sex between two healthy people is really important.
good luck
2007-02-15 16:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by yiufdbgkhfjj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't desire to make love with him, you don't really love him. If you marry, he will be miserable.
And if you do love him, leave him so he can find a true happy healthy life with someone else.
2007-02-15 16:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How is it that a God Fearing man, and you, respectful of a God fearing man...engage in hedonism outside God's law?
2007-02-16 10:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
is it because he grunts to loud while making love?
2007-02-15 16:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋