My boyfriend and I feel that we are ready to make love to each other. He wants to have anal sex. He also suggested an enema so that I can be clean for his cock. What do you think?
2007-02-15 08:32:12 · 39 answers · asked by Kaite 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex in anyway is great if your up for it. The whole enema thing isn't necessary. He's being a bit prudent. My sister owns a lingerie/adult room and she sells a beed anal kit. It helps give different size string of balls to get your *** use to opening up. If yiou try and have anal sex for the first time you can split open and you'll be sore and regret it. He may not even get it in the all the way at first. So try my idea and you'll be good. Make sure you use lube too. Ask the store person what kinda lubes to use because some are water based and a gay couple came in and said they don't like the waterbased lubes. Goodluck and enjoy. It's natural don't feel gross. It's a way for couples to experiment other things with each other when they love each other. i'm not an old woman I am 24 and I worked in my sisters shop and gone through so many different people and had to keep a straight face and became used to it.
2007-02-15 08:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by Daniell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn stars use enemas before anal sex to ensure they are clean and if you are comfortable with it at least you'll be clean. I would only consider this if you are entirely comfortable with it, you should never feel obliged, or pressured to do anything you are not happy about. I am a little concerned if you haven't already been intimate that he's suggested anal sex rather than the more usual vaginal intercourse. Can you be certain about his sexual history? If you decide to go ahead please use condoms as HIV is more easily caught during anal sex.
2007-02-15 08:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heterosexual sex for the first time, in my opinion, should be done the old fashion way, face to face - vaginally. It can be very scary and both parties need to support each others feelings. Later, after you get the hang of it (so to speak) then try going up the old back door. Enemas are a nice thing then.
If your bf doesn't want to do face to face, in the regular way, I would question his sexual preference. Please have him wear a condom no matter what. Remember this if nothing else; men/boys will say anything during an erection. Think about birth control first. Oh yeah, when it comes to condoms ask your bf to practice on his own.
2007-02-15 08:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know what I think I think that your boyfriend needs an enema. What kinda boyfriend is going to want a girl to have anal sex her first time. That is just not right. I think you should wait on someone that really respects you!!!!!!1
2007-02-15 08:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't buy into the hollywood image of what sex is. right now anal is a celebrity fad. If I were to do it, I would want the girl to at least reach up there and check for poo if not have an enema. I don't want to pull out a rusty trombone. If you want to make love, focus on intimacy and trust, not the surface stuff. Making love and anal sex are an odd couple.
2007-02-15 08:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by wassupmang 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off if its your first time, why would he want anal? I would be more concerned with him wanting that more than anything. Second, having anal is NOT making love. Anal to me is nasty and any man that presures a woman to have anal is a closet homosexual. I understand once in a while, fine, especially if you are in a relationship for a while...you need things to keep the relationship fresh but for the first time??? That's a little suspect to me. And then he suggest a enema??? Like hes an expert and has done it before....like I said before...SUSPECT! Please be careful and please don't allow him to pressure you into doing anything you are not comfortable with ot are not ready for. For your first time, it should not be anal. Good Luck!
2007-02-15 08:40:39 · answer #6 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Are you aware of this being the easiest way to contract the HIV virus? Please have your boyfriend wear a condom. I also personally don't think that you should do all of this for your 1st encounter with sex. You may find it uncomfortable physically and emotionally especially depending on your age. Also the effects of the enema will leave you sore and not feeling your best But... who are we to tell you guys what to do? Just make sure he wears a condom and it's well lubricated.
2007-02-15 08:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by PROUDJEW 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he cares about you at all he won't make you try that until the regular sex is comfortable for you both.
He wants you to have an enema? Sounds like he's a douche.
Get it?
2007-02-15 08:35:25 · answer #8 · answered by Year of the Monkey 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend sounds like a douche... Your first sexual encounter should not be that... and just for his/your info an enema isn't needed. If he was more worried about you than he was about his ***** then we wouldn't be having this conversation... Sorry but your first time should be romantic and with someone you love. This guy doesn't think very highly of you...
2007-02-15 08:40:46 · answer #9 · answered by emce 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to tell him to slow down...generally people don't do anything like that until after they've been together a long time and feel comfortable doing so. I think you should wait on that and try vaginal sex first if you are truly ready for sex. If he can't accept that then he's not worth losing your virginity to anyway...
2007-02-15 08:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋