I've been friends with this guy that only speaks Spanish for a year. I speak Spanish and English so we can communicate. We always have a good time together and I am really conflicted because I love him so much, but I am reserved because I don't want my heart to break. Recently (past two months) he's been pursuing a relationship. We had a big misunderstanding that was neither of our faults and everything worked out. He came to me knowing I was upset and has written me two heartfelt letters. He told me that he fell in love with me and that he doesn't want sex (he knows I am waiting) but loves me for my heart. I told him I don't want my heart to break and he promised he would never want to break my heart. He told me that he thinks about me all the time and he loves me and just wants me to feel the same and he always wants to kiss or hug. I know Latin's are generally more affectionate and he has told me "te quiero" and "te amo" and I know 'te amo' is very serious.
2007-02-15 08:21:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would think if he just wanted sex he would have already gone elsewhere, I told him the other night that I do not want to sleep with anyone until I am married and he has told me OVER and OVER he "loves" me for my heart and not my body. My family and friends don't approve AT ALL, because he doesn't speak English (he is currently learning), they think that the relationship would be pointless and end bad. I care about him more than ANYTHING..but they don't understand at all...what should I do??
Thanks for any help! I just need unbiased opinions.
FYI : He kissed me and I kissed back...will that make me seem "easy"?? I hope not :/
2007-02-15 08:22:37 · update #1
I'm 20, he's 25.
I won't lower my standards or morals so I don't understand why they don't want this.
A lot of it could be that I am in University and he just moved here a few years ago and works a blue collar job, but I don't care about that, I care about him, not what he does for a living.
2007-02-15 08:28:44 · update #2
Mommy and Daddy know best. I'm sure they can see something about him that you can't because you have the rose colored glasses on. Try looking at it from their perspective. But from what you are telling us, he seems like he cares about you. If it's just because of his nationality then of course I'd say that is wrong.
2007-02-15 08:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, in response to the first part,
If you want to pursue a serious relationship with this guy, the family thing has to work out, if you love your family more than the guy, then you will know what to do.
Next about him not loving your for your body, is partly crap, guys are very visually wired. I think that it is very sweet that you are waiting, because i am also 20 and waiting. I think that this guy is either a lier or he wants your body but is commited to waiting. I hope the second is true.
Guys love the chase, don't be too easy or he will eventually move on. Hope that things work out for the best girl!!
2007-02-15 08:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by jenski 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depending on which country he is from "te quiero" is I love you just as "te amo" is I love you. I started dating a non English speaking illegal man in 1985 My family was very opposed to this. He was from Mexico, he was not comfortable with displays of affection especially when others were around. We have been married 21 years, my family loves him now. I know he loves me not because of how demonstrative he is , but by how I am treated with love and respect at all times. Good luck and follow your heart
2007-02-15 08:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are thinking entirely too much. Take a deep breath and relax. Pain is inevitable in life, I too am waiting for marriage and I have been with a man now for a year that has no problem with it. follow your heart, if you find happiness with this man take it! As long as the two of you can communicate that's all that matters. Show respect for your family and their opinions, but don't give in to them. your life, your lessons. I know for a fact that there are men out there that can love you beyond your dreams and it seems that you and I have found one. Hold on.
2007-02-15 08:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, the kissing will not make you seem easy. Having random sex with a lot of guys will.
As for your relationship, wow. I am not judging you at all, but how old are you? Not asking as in you may not understand love or that you sound immature. But its your heart. Its who you fell in love with.
I have been on the side where my honey's family did not like me at all. They thought I was bad news and I was just a horrible girlfriend. I never treated my honey badly but they overheard some of our arguments but none of the times where we made up and got over it and now we are married so they just have to deal with it.
You have to just put your foot down and tell your family, this is the person you love. If you heart breaks, then its your fault but its not their decision. You obviously love this guy and he loves you. Sometimes its hard for a family to get use to a new and strange person. Being different is being strange to a lot of families. I know I am hispanic and my honey is white. His family really just thought I was a gangsta hoe or something.
Let them see him and get to know him. It takes awhile but let them adapt to him.
2007-02-15 08:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should give him a chance. It doesn't matter what your family thinks. Because he cannot speak english isn't a good enough reason that you shouldn't date him. If you can talk to him and hang out with him for hours at a time and if you think about him atleast once a day, then you should give him a chance. You should also try and help him learn english and kissing him isn't gonna make you seem easy. Give it a shot. You don't want to pass up your future do you?
2007-02-15 08:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Candi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no ur not easy, i would too. he seems like a really nice guy so i say stay with him and don't let any1 tell u different because u love him and he loves u that is all that counts in a realtionship. so i say go with what ur heart tells u. and yea if he wanted sex he would have moved on by now but he don't want sex he wants u for the person u r not who u try and pretend to be. good luck chica.
2007-02-15 08:28:56 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The relationship you have with him sounds to be one of mutual respect and love. Your family not approving on the basis that he does not speak English is foolish. Listen to your heart and do not let other people's prejudice jeopardise your relationship with him. I admire the fact that he respects your decision on waiting until marriage to have sex. Good luck to you both.
2007-02-15 08:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look here. My parents hate my husband. They hated him when he was my boyfriend. But you know what we still got married and dated anyways. It doesnt matter what anyone else thinks about your relationship. You are the one that is in it and will have to deal with what happens... ie heartbreak. People should just leave you alone and if worst comes to worst they can say they told you so later. Its your life and if you love this guy and think its right then stay with it and dont listen to other people because you will regret breaking it off because of other peoples opinions. Stay with this guy if you are happy!!!!
2007-02-15 08:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-02 05:02:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋