ok well me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month now.
he used to be a bull rider and got hurt really bad .now he has heart prob. the doc. gave him two years to live.he asked me to marry him i said yes.we planed to get married in 4 years but now that this has happened i dont know wat to do.i dont know what to say to him. i need help should i just comfort him ?
2007-02-15 08:16:52 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, why would you be talking marriage in a month? YOu hardly even know someone in a month. You have no obligation to someone you hardly know. If this relationship had been longer......well then.......if you were really planning on marrying him at some point you would have to decide if "In Sickness, and in Health," means anything to you. If you really cared for this man, then you will committ yourself to him, while you have him here. If you don't, then leave him in his hour of need and go start dating other people. Two years out of your life, to make someone you love comfortable in the last years of theirs......sounds like an easy decision to me. Unless of course you are painfully self absorbed or maybe realize that you've gotten WAY in over your head with the whole engaged after a month thing. What if he had gotten this diagnosis AFTER you married him.....divorce....cheating.....what??? Take it one day at a time, but if you care at all.......don't just abandon him...
2007-02-15 08:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jiahua D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was told by the doctors that I had 10 years left at the most. This was back in 1985 obviously they were wrong or I wouldn't be writing this now. I have a heart condition also; and I am on new medications now that help. They also told me again last year that I only had about 18 months left and yes I am just as scared now as I was when the 10 year time limit came. What are the odds of them being wrong twice? I will have to let you know that in about 6 more months. Spend everyday like it is your last.
2007-02-15 16:30:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God...you're kidding me, right? Not to sound mean, but I'd go with him to his next appointment. If he doesn't have one soon, ask to have the doctor explain things to you so you can better understand what is going on. If he does not agree to this, put up the red flags. First, what kind of injury did he sustain that led to a cardiac problem? Second, I've never known a doctor to say that someone has two years to live without giving some sort of explanation. That seems like a pretty arbitrary number to me. Third, how old are you? Don't rush into this without opening both eyes and listening to your gut.
2007-02-15 16:26:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, doctors have been wrong before. He may get stronger and live for quite a few years.
Second of all, before he got hurt you had plenty to say to him. You both have to live life while you have it. You never know what is going to happen, as you have already experienced. He could have been killed during his fall from the bull.
Third of all, get married and enjoy the time that you have together. For all you both know it could be many years.
Take care,
Troy
2007-02-15 16:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont totally dispair!! My dad had a heart problem before I was born, and the Doc said He would be dead in a week. Twenty years later, he's still with us (unfortunately). If I were you, I wouldn't bother marrying him, I'd just get on with loving him. That's far more important.
2007-02-15 16:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by Maximillian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly in Love with him and you want to Marry him, then do so. If you don't have those feelings, please don't marry him. There is no reason why the two of you can't continue to date and enjoy each other. The big thing is you need to ask yourself, and honestly answer, why did you say yes? Talk with him and find out why did he ask? intentions are the most important thing in this life. Talk it out, you'll know what to do, no one can choose for you.
2007-02-15 16:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats a tough 1! i believe you have to find it some where in your heart to figure out what 2 do! i personally wouldnt marry him b/c marriage is something i believe is supposed to last. In your condition, I would make sure i would keep it real w/ him but at the same stay by his side to the fullest!
2007-02-15 16:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by LaLa-Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you two should enjoy the time you have, but it seems a little pointless to get married at this point. It seems like it would be more of a hassle for both of you.
2007-02-15 16:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by Felicity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 choices.... make his last 2 years of his life the happiest of his life, or break him off NOW!! And dont look back. I would do the first, and make his life happy, while he is still here. In the meantime, pray to God to restore him.
2007-02-15 16:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by jesse g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u really love him...marry him...who knows about life and death except God, may be he would be wid u all life...just comfort him...don't leave him like that when he needs u...He'll be alright....
hope for the best ...
2007-02-15 16:24:18 · answer #10 · answered by Rain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋