what would you do???

Question

i am a married 26 yr old woman with three children. my oldest is 8yr old girl, i have a 2 yr old boy and a 9 mos old little girl. i am wanting to get my tubes tied but my husband wants one more child. we own a home but are running out of room and am not really ready to purchase a new home. we have threee bedrooms and my husband works well over 60 hrs a week. i work part time because that is my only break from the children. our oldest is not biolocically his but he has taken full responsibilty because her bio father is not in the picture. he is a wonderful husband and father and wants to have one more child. i would like to get my tubes tied and take care of the ones we have and then go to work full time eventually. we are doign ok finacially for the most part but i would just like to get back to my old self and not really wanting anymore children. they are so exspensive. if we could afford i would maybe change my mind. i dont want to dissapoint him!! what would you do??????

Answer 1

well..though you do not want anymore children you should look back on all the good tiems with your children, their birth, birthdyas, etc. You may think you dont want anymore but honeslty if you ar doing okay financialy you should go for it. everything will get easier as they grow older and if you are not ready at the moment then maybe think bout it a little longer before saying, No, just talk to your husband and ask him if you can wait a little while, because your yougnest is only nine months, maybe wait till a year and a half. Everything will get better! Good Luck!

Answer 2

Hi i don't know to much about parenting but i could tell as a friend that you guys don't need any more at for now its seems like hes not around to much so adding another baby would make things hard for you instead of going to a full-time career your going to be a full-time mother i think you should at least wait for awhile and focus on the ones you have already and follow your dreams that you always wanted to follow just help understand guys might take the wrong way but just tell him not now maybe later of course tell him you love him and take him in....also can you please read my question and give me advise thank you

Answer 3

I would just get on the pill for now. Sit down and talk to him tell him how you feel and since he wants another one so bad wait on getting your tubes tied. You never know in a year or two you might change your mind and want just one more your self! Just make sure your hubby knows that just because you didn't get it done yet doesn't mean you are going to definitely want another baby.

Answer 4

I would tell him you will think about it. You just had 2 babies in 3 years. Of course you want your old self back. Tell him you will discuss it when the youngest is 2. Until then make sure YOU are providing the birth control. Who knows? Maybe by then you will be able to buy a new house. Good luck

Answer 5

I have to say I wouldn't even think about giving birth to a child if my heart was not totally into it. It is alright for him to want another kid, sweet infact. But in truth it isn't his body and he isn't the one home with them. 4 is not easy. Especially not that close together. However, you are married. The decision to have a child should come from both of you. I wouldn't jump straight to having the tubal just yet, you may change your mind.

Answer 6

If I didn't want anymore children I'd stand my ground. It's your body and you have to carry and give birth not him. Plus in all actuality 3 children is more than enough in todays economy. Has he considered the cost of putting children through college? And by the time yours grow up and are ready to go it will have at least tripled. You can't count on grants.

Answer 7

GO TO YOUR OB/GYN AND ASK FOR A I.U.D. 5 YEAR BIRTH CONTROL, YOUR HUSBAND WOULD NEVER KNOW, AND IF YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND, A 5 SECOND TRIP BACK TO THE DOCTOR TO REMOVE IT IS ALL YOU NEED.

Answer 8

let's go for 1 more
btw it's your hubbie here

Answer 9

Sit down and talk to him.

Answer 10

wow bro..............