Cant a Christian pursue a relationship with a non-christian and possibly encorage him/her to believe?
2007-02-15 08:09:30 · 15 answers · asked by Nae 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sure its possible but its not wise.
2007-02-15 08:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
You must be equally yoked yes! Especially females. Not to sound sexist, but men are more influential over a relationship than a female. That is why a female should always pick a good Christian man.
I have seen many women fall prey to sin after dating and/or marrying a non Christian man. I have seen many women become Christians after dating a Christian man.
I am not saying that the reverse can't be true, it is just less probable.
Also check family background. The way a man treats his mother is the way he will treat his wife. If he is demanding and rude to mom, guess what you are next.
And for women it is similar but not completely the same. The relationship a girl has with her father will tell you how she is with her husband. That is a whole other chapter.
2007-02-15 08:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
According to God and the statistics of modern society, no, you shouldn't pursue a relationship with a non-Christian.
Couple reasons from experience why:
1) The non-Christian can lie to you, and declare he/she is now a believer, until later you decide it was all an act.
2) If you pursue the relationship and they don't come to know Christ, you are raised with mixed morals in your home. Those of Christ and those of the world. If you choose to have children, you cannot successfully introduce a loving Christian relationship with them with a spouse who is not committed to that same relationship.
3) The Christian husband and wife have specific roles in the family. If only one of those roles is followed, there is a disjoint, which can caused struggles in the relationship.
4) A Christian husband and wife, those who have sold out there lives for Christ, have a mediator in Him to all ends. If they are faithful to the committment they made to each other, the only thing that will end the relationship is adultery or death. (And the former can be resolved through forgiveness and time.) If you don't have Christ as the cornerstone of your relationship, you have no ground to stand on.
And finally, for those who see "christian" marriage as having a 50%+ divorce rate, it is for the mention above that either one or both parties are not following Christ that results in such tragic numbers.
2007-02-15 08:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by westdyk1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can...however, the Scriptures are clear on being equally yoked. One of the reasons is that people are easily swayed by the ones they love. God doesn't want us taken away from him. He wants to draw nearer to us. Add someone that doesn't share your core beliefs...and issues will arise.
Maintenance on relationships is difficult enough, however, when you add in additional issues (core beliefs) it can make it much more difficult.
Ask yourself, why do you want to be in a relationship with someone that doesn't have your same core beliefs.
What happens if (or when) you get married and children come along? How will they be raised? Christian? Agnostic? Atheist? (Or whatever religion he is.) How do you explain Christianity is right when daddy doesn't believe? How do you show them the one clear path to God (Jesus Christ) when daddy doesn't believe?
Why add more difficulty where there is already a 50% divorce rate?
Just give it some thought...and give it some prayer.
2007-02-15 08:19:24 · answer #4 · answered by Salvation is a gift, Eph 2:8-9 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When a relationship is new, everyone thinks the differences don't matter. It might be fine for a while but if it gets real serious, you find the differences do matter. They matter when you are praying, attending church, getting married, raising a family. Religious differences tend to complicate and unravel what should be joyous occasions. I have to agree with answerer Nathan about men having more influence in a relationship, especially about religion. Women tend to give in more easily, sometimes out of fear. Fear of the relationship ending, fear of anger or even violence. Find someone who has the same beliefs and values that you have. It is important and not because I said so and have seen and lived it. Do it because God said.
May God Bless you.
2007-02-15 08:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes they can but the results are disasterous. I would encourage you to find one of the many couples were on is a believer and the other is not. You will find that along with all the normal difficulties they also deal with their difference of beliefs. I can not tell you how many times I have counciled with couples of this nature. The most difficulties come with children. Dad wants son to be a chip off the old block. Mom wants son to be a christian. Dad lets him do what he wants. Mom wants son to obey the laws of God. The point is God is no fool. The Bible states for us to be unequally yoked because of these problems. The Bottom line is you can either choose to obey the word of God or you can choose to obey the lusts of your flesh. One will lead to life the other destruction.
"If you love me, keep my commandments." (John 14:15)
"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?" (2 Cor. 6:15)
2007-02-15 08:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by David S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that you could lead them to the Lord. But you should never enter a relationship hoping to change the other person. Ask yourself "If this person never changed woudl I still love them and want to spend the rest of my life with them?"
I was friends with a couple where the woman was a christian and the man was not. He felt like God could never forgive him for what he had done. She did everything she could but they ended up divorcing because of it.
2007-02-15 08:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by cnm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really hard to change a person unless they want to change themselves...I tried it once with my exb/f...When i would try to talk some sense into him and tell him about Jesus and Heaven and Satan and Hell, his response would be "i'm gonna get my own piece of coal and start my own Hell"...needless to say, i'm not with the dirtbag anymore...lol
Its also hard for two people to try and make their relationship work when they go to two completely different churches...because they dont believe the same way, therefore causing conflict in the religion department...
2007-02-15 08:17:26 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ωέςтєяиΝСģαζ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A christian can but... I had this same question at church and was told this say you are sitting on a table (the christian) and he/she (non-christian) is on the floor , is it easier for you to pull them up or for them to pull you down, pull you down, right?, so in some cases it maybe possible but in the end it's not what God wants for us.
2007-02-15 08:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by m cheryl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
'Missionary Dating' is usually not successful. More often, the Christian begins to compromise and backslide. There are exceptions, of course. It just makes it harder when a couple disagrees on something that is so fundamental to their being.
2007-02-15 08:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by Char 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-02-15 08:14:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋