My boyfriend lives in tennessee and i live in Pennsylvania. i am thinking about breakin up wit him...he calls but when he calls he is always doing somethin else and when i call him he never wants to tlk he is either busy or sleep he sends me sweet txt messages and everything but nothin can happen wit pur relationship partly because its long distance. And also i have been recieving messages from several girls sayin they go out wit him and stuff but i don`t know wht 2 believe? wht should i do...most detailed answer will be best answer if u need more details jus tell me
2007-02-15 08:02:19 · 12 answers · asked by Ash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not feeling good about this relationship. Why not part ways and end it, and just be friends for a while?
2007-02-15 08:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. Long distance relationships are always difficult because both parties don't get to see each other often enough to help the relationship grow. It is a very bad sign when other women start calling you and staking claims on the guy that you're supposed to be dating. Most likely, he is dating other women while he's supposed to be with you. It seems like you are more interested in a serious relationship with him than he is with you. Let him know that you receive weird messages from other women about him and see what he says about it. I think you should break up with him. If you two are meant to be then the BOTH of you will work at it and find a way to make it happen. Until then, date others because he obvioulsy is. Good luck.
2007-02-15 16:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by ALeoStar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I'm in the same situation...when I met my "bf" we were both living in Chicago, then I got a job offer in Maryland and I took it so I moved here. It has been a weird experience havin a long distance relationship. At first we called each other often but he was always like out of it. Everytime I called him it was like he didn't care about the fact that I was calling...anyway he also has the bad habit of talking when I'm talking so we hardly understand each other. But then later that day or any other days he would send me txt messages like "I miss you" or "Hey cookie" or "I wanna move in w you" and BS like that, but it's just WORDS, he never says anything to me even when I was in Chicago he never showed how much he cared about me and maybe that's the reason why I did take this job here. I really liked him but now I really don't care about it. So we haven't officially broken up, but I count it as we are. I mean we're very far from each other, he barely calls me and I saw on his myspace page all this girls' messages...
Girl I would say you should just let things how they are and just move on with your life like I did...it just feels I don't have a bf, don't you feel the same way? And as hard as you try it's not going to change the fact that you are apart from each other...
Good luck girl.
2007-02-15 16:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by Dama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the biggest thing in relationships is trust. Especially if its a long distance relationship. You have to ask yourself, why these girls would randomly be contacting you if what they were saying isn't true. What do they have to gain from lying to you? Have you talked to him about how you feel and what you think? The bottom line is, long distance relationships CAN work...but if you have lost trust, you have lost the relationship.
Good Luck
2007-02-15 16:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by chickenbuttoch2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about your feelings and see what he has to say. Maybe it wasent meant to be. My best friend was dating a guy in Virginia and we live in New York. They saw eachother like 3 times she visited him and he visited her. But then he decided that she was fat and ugly and he found someone better.This girl that he was cheating on my friend with was so ugly but he thought she was the best. Even though he sends you texts doesnt mean he really cares.It could be an act for his friends.And when you call him and he doesnt ever have times for you that should be a major turn off for you. That says he doesnt really care id he talks to you or not. Get out before you get hurt!Good Luck!
2007-02-15 16:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by cutiepie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am having a long distance relationship too with my girlfriend... you know what if you cant trust him anymore then tell him.. dont punish yourself in thinking who is with him all the time .. you will go crazy... better tell him the truth that things dont work out if he will keep avoiding your calls.. communication is the life source of a long distance relationship.. if he cannot communicate will or doenst bother too.. tell him you cant keep a relationship such as this work by yourself
2007-02-15 16:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by Philip Simon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that it's not gonna work for whatever reason, the best thing to do is end it cicilly before you guys say or do something to make the other mad. Best to part as friends if possible.
2007-02-15 16:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all read what you wrote .......... if it was a friend of yours, what advice would you give her? How do these girls get u'r number......obviously they want you to know - I don't think you really want to know though. End this - but in a good way - be friends - that way you can also explore the opportunities that are surrounding you.
2007-02-15 16:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships do not work. Period. Does that help any? If you are as young as I think you are, then you are only wasting your life....go have fun and meet someone new.
2007-02-15 16:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by Numb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you get messages from girls saying they go out with him?
what does you bf say about that? it doesnt seem from your details that youve even asked him! youre very lucky that he calls and sends you sweet messages....he's thinking of you. think about being together and talk about when and where and work on the present and future together. peace
2007-02-15 16:12:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋