I have not gotten married atleast partialy because I am extremely picky and I am always looking for that perfect someone. Every relationship I have been in I forced myself to go ahead despite the fact that I wan't excited about the girl. " She seems like a good match. I am being too picky," Now I am not going to settle but I feel I won't ever find what I am looking for. I do not know how to get past what might be too high expectations. I can't just tell myself to stop. I have tried to just stop being picky but she can tell when I don't like her.
2007-02-15 07:58:03 · 14 answers · asked by lend322 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just remember that NOBODY is perfect, not even you. We are all merely human. Decied which qualities in a girl are acceptable and you can deal with and which ones aren't and you just refuse to dela with. Start from there. I used to have the same problem, then I decided that I was going to give EVERYONE a chance. I have gotten alot futher that way. :)
2007-02-15 08:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man. When you are looking to spend the rest of your life with someone, there ain't no such thing as too picky... Almost.
Question. Are you asking women out or you going out with the women who show an interest in you?
None of us, without expereince, know what we really want in a mate until we've dated enough to know what we do and don't like...
1) You start dating women that you're intereted in.
2) Dates are not for romance. Dates are to figure out if you like each other.
3) Your only goal on a date is to make a friend.
If you find you are not interested, stop dating. (if you are as picky as you say you are) 99% of the time, she won't make it past the 3rd date. So no long term loss for either of you.
Last caveat. There is no perfect person. All relationship are works in progress and there must be communication and compromise. So yes, you can be too picky, but better to be picky and be happy than accept something less.
When you find the right person, you won't be picky because you'll ignore her faults.
Good luck.
A~
2007-02-15 16:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by BigMac2xk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can really relate to what you are saying. Picky are the words other people describe you as. You are not picky, you want to connect with a woman on all levels. You know what makes you ultimately happy and you are not prepared to settle for anything less. It makes sense to me, because if you settle for anything less than what makes you ultimately happy, what is the use, because you know it wont last, so its a waste of time settling. I have been described as picky too. I dont class myself as picky...I want what you want and anything less wouldnt make me unhappy and its me Ive got to live with and if Im not happy, then my partner would not be happy. Hang onto your values, dont settle, and one day the right woman will come along and she will be everything you have ever wanted in a woman. Remember, the world is a huge place....and out there somewhere is your soul mate. I am 52, I married when I was 27 because it was the thing to do...I wasnt happy, but I settled and it ended in divorce. At 50, I met the love of my life...he makes me totally happy on all levels.....so, the woman of your dreams is out there...you just havent found her yet. Dont settle......its probably the people that call you picky are the ones who have settled and are unhappy. Dont do what they have done....wait for your soul mate...I guarantee you will find her.
2007-02-15 16:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever stop being picky! If you plan to spend the rest of your life with someone, you better make sure that you will be happy with them! No such thing as Too picky!
2007-02-15 16:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by justlookin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very picky as well.And maby a little blunt(im told).But I've herd about the std's out there and it scares me.Nothing wrong with wanting maturity,humor and a nice package in a person.I don't want to be treated like a pay-toy,thoe.
2007-02-15 16:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by gotabedifferent 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm extremely picky as well. I figure that I have plenty of life left to find the one that fits the bill.
In the meantime, I sit back and enjoy the ride. What's your hurry?
2007-02-15 16:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no problem being picky, as long as the things you are picky about aren't shallow, i.e. appearance, etc.
No one is perfect, including you! It would really benefit you to go talk to someone about your high standards. It sounds like you have some deeper issues to discuss.
2007-02-15 16:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never lower your standard and never settle. Stop looking. God will bring the right one if you believe he can. Trust in him to do what you think is impossible. He's more capable to write love stories than we ever could be!
2007-02-15 16:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by Gecko'sGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong - O! You can't be picky ENOUGH. Listen to the horror stories if you think I'm kidding.
2007-02-15 16:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by vanamont7 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no such thing as perfect person,if you like her then stick with her but if you are too picky,sorry to say this dude but you will always be alone
2007-02-15 17:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by NONAME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋