I got it figured out. My children listen on the first time to any command I give them (They are two). I don't even have to raise my voice!
Here's what I do, I tell them to do/not do something. If they listen, wonderful, I praise them! If they don't do what I asked, I have a switch in my back pocket, and a quick little sting on the butt gets through to them REAL fast that Mommy is serious! I also get down on their level, hug, comfort and love on them, but reiterate where they went wrong.
You'd be amazed at how well my kids listen on the first time now!
Questions/Comments?
2007-02-15 07:57:18 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I guess, if it works for you. Personally I prefer to steer clear of violence.
2007-02-15 07:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by leaptad 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If your kids are listening to you, this is better than constantly screaming at them or putting them in endless time outs. Since people stopped giving this type of discipline, we have a raised a whole generation of kids that we can't control once they get a little older. The reason is there is very few alternatives that work. Kids are actually happier when they know who is in charge and it makes them more secure. It is scary to have no limits and to not know where the boudaries are. Good for you for taking charge in a loving way. Don't listen to the people who say you are beating your kids.
2007-02-18 14:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by Deborah B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are telling us you beat your kids so you are celebrating...glad you figured that out. Hope it keeps working and they don't snatch it from your back pocket and do to others as you did to them. Not to put you down, you asked for questions and comments...but I was wondering if you ever thought you are actually teaching them fear and dominance? Would you want someone to sting you in the butt every time you made a mistake or did something wrong, or would you want someone to take time out of there day to talk to you about it. You do what you need to do, good luck.
2007-02-15 16:10:19 · answer #3 · answered by Roxy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations on finding something that works for your children! Some of the other people responding seem to think their "time-out" method works for every child. Using ONLY "Time-Out" is ridiculous, and is absolutely why we have this generation of horrible spoiled children that ride on a high horse and think everything is all about them.
Keep doing what works best for your family!
2007-02-16 14:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you even aware of how illegal that is? EXTREMELY. So i guess your into slavery as well. Thats how your treating your children, as slaves. You command them to do something and if they dont they get beat with a switch? I believe in firm child obedience but i would NEVER hit my children with a switch for christ sake. A tap on the hand/butt? Ever consider that? Time out also works. They are TWO they are NOT slaves. I think you need to realize this is 2007 not slave times.
2007-02-15 16:03:02 · answer #5 · answered by PatricksMom* 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
That's right teach the kids physical violence so that when they start school and they want another child to do something and the other child doesn't do it they can get violent. Perfect. It doesn't take much intelligence to use physical violence of any kind against a child. Even the Apes use physical violence against their offspring. I'm glad I have a bit more intelligence than the apes...I never had to resort to physical violence to get my daughter to behave, and she was far from angelic.
2007-02-16 03:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop contributing to the "Wussification" of america. your kids dont need to be praised. They need to be punished firmly. Otherwise they will grow up thinking that MOMMY can fix everything.
The switch is good but thats the only good thing youve said to this point
2007-02-15 16:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by matt_archbold2002 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Question...you have a switch in your back pocket that stings them? I'm soo confused...
2007-02-15 16:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should be teaching them at this age, not hitting them! Two is a very young age to get hit! Instilling fear in a two year old is NOT A GOOD IDEA! I firmly believe in making kids behave, but I still think two is to young for hitting.
2007-02-15 16:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You know "spare the rod, spoil the child" is one of numerous passages in the bible that were mistranslated?
The word isn't rod, it's staff in particular the one used by shepherd's which do not, actually hit their sheep with it.
2007-02-15 16:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good for you! I'm a firm believer in "spare the rod, spoil the child" and have reared a very well mannered, respectful child because of it!
I wish you well!
2007-02-15 16:00:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋