How did she treat you when you lived at home and now that your on your own, that makes your relationship close. I seem to upset my daughter sometimes and Ineed to know when to stay out of her business or not to say certain things.
2007-02-15 07:56:38 · 12 answers · asked by La Cicada 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Okay, you guys to! How does she treat you that makes you love her so much? When I say the best Mom in the world , I mean to you.
2007-02-15 08:12:27 · update #1
I have 22 year old daughter (senior in college)and 25 year old son in touring Metal band, both single.
2007-02-15 08:45:59 · update #2
My mom has always treated me great. I consider my mom my best friend. When I lived at home she raised me as if she was a friend not a mother so I could come to her with whatever I had a problem with. Now that I moved out of the house I still call her everyday and sometimes even twice a day just to tell her about my day and ask about hers. My mom doesn' t pry for me to tell her things she just lets me bring the things to her when I am ready to tell her. Your daughter will come to you eventually if something is going on in her life. You just have to give her time.
2007-02-15 08:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by iluvmyself676 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom treated me well back when I lived at home. We were pretty close, but I didn't confide boyfriend stuff to her. Now that I have kids of my own, my mom and I are very, very close. She gives me more advice than I want, of course, but that's what all moms do. Sometimes I just want her to listen - - - to be a sounding board - - - because I know that unlike friends, SHE is part of my immediate family and cares deeply. Don't worry about upsetting your daughter - - - it just happens. My mom still upsets me and when she knows she's come on a little too strong she calls to apologize. Nothing seems to break our bond.
You might just want to listen a little more and say a little less. Tell her you support her and for her to let you know if she wants your opinion and advice. Or try counting to 10 before you automatically say something. It's going to be funny though, a few years down the road when she does the very same thing with her daughter/son. haha! . . . . because, as women, we all turn into our moms!
Oh, and the reason I love her SO much is because she is there for me 100% of the time and always has been. She supports me in so many ways, and she is the most generous person I know. She is constantly doing things for me or my kids to help us out. She doesn't take over, but she's at my back helping me along.
2007-02-15 08:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by TPhi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, growing up my mom was pretty hardcore. Very protective and very controlling. We argued alot because she was so old fashioned and I wanted to just live my life. I moved out when I was 18 and hurt my mother very much. I though I knew what life was about and that I could make it on my own. Which I did. Four years later, I can understand why my mother was the way she was. I guess moving out not only opened my eyes, but it opened hers. She learned to just let me be, that it is ok to make mistakes (even though she still makes comments), and to just trust me. Now, we talk almost everyday and though we both disagree with certain things, I know that no matter what, I still have a mom who would drop everything and just be with me. I guess my mom is so great, because I can trust her. And not alot of people can say that.
2007-02-15 08:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom and I had problems when I was a teenager, but generally I would say she is the greatest mom. She always let me make my own mistakes, never said I told you so, but was always there to lend a hand or pick up the pieces. She gave me emotional support thru lives tough times, took pride in me when I did well, rejoiced with me when I was happy and cried with me when I was sad. Now that we are older, I try to be supportive of her, I provide most of her meals, take her shopping and talk to her on the phone almost every day. My mom is so special there are no words. Good luck to you and God Bless you. Remember you can't prevent someone from making their own mistakes, they will resent that. And you can't say you told them so, no matter how much you may have told them so. Be supportive of your daughter, hold her hand when she needs it, give her a nudge when she needs it, and let her fall when she needs to but be there to pick her and and kiss the boo boo. The same as when she was 3!!! only now she's older.
2007-02-15 08:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh you sound like my mother used to be. I love her so much. We got along until I was about 16. Rebelious i guess. My mother is in my business today but it is because I make her a part of it. I got pregnant at 18 and had my son at 19. My mom asked my then boyfriend fo 2 years what his plan was. Well we were both young and he dumped me. He now has a total of 9 kids my son being the oldest. My son is now 9 and hasn't seen or heard from his father EVER. I lived on my own raising my son and not with my mom. Now I am married of course and I have been for 2 years. My husband is wonderful. I just turned 29 today and my mother is a big part of my life. I didn't like it before but I appreciate it now. She has helped my husband and I in our arguments. We both go to her for them and she is very neutral to both of us. She never pick my side because I am her daughter like some moms. My husband and I are still married and a lot of it is because she has helped us work through our problems. She never gets involved unless we ask though. Sometimes we will both just need to vent so she will just listen and not give advice which is really nice. Again she doesn't say anything or get involved unless we ask. I love her for that. She loves my husband and I thank her for helping me be a better wife to him. Now his mother is bad. I posted a question on here about her and I hope you look at it and respond being a mother and all. Just make sure you don't get involved in her business unless she asks. Then again if she is still considered a minor then she needs to understand that. My mother was very tough on my twin and I growing up because our older sister used to run away all the time. She was to protective of us because of that. Guess that's why i was so rebelious and moved out at 16. She is a wonderful woman and i feel for my husband that his mom is so difficult. She tries to tell him how to raise our daughter, how me his wife should do things in our home, she lies to him that I cheat on him in front of her...she has been trying to break up our home and she told us that 2 days before our anniversary which was yesterday. I really feel for him. I am sure you are a wonderful mother but for some reason it takes us kids to fully grow (sometimes to have kids of our own too) up to see that and to see that yal have our best interests at heart. I am 29 and my husband will be 35. I thank the lord everyday for my mother and pray for my husbands to not drive us crazy. I wouldn't change my mother for the world but I would change how I made her feel because I was so blind before. Take care and let her come to you. Just don't judge her. She is coming to you to vent or for advice...not for anything more.
2007-02-15 08:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by { Me } 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum has always been more like one of my friends. She's never really been bossy like other mums. now im 22 and we have a great relationship, we talk about things, but she never says " no you cant do that" she always just says whats on her mind and gives me advice about life's little challenges.
Except for when it comes to my husband! she always stays out of it, because she has always said it is my choice and they wouldn't ever stand in my way.
2007-02-15 08:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i lived with my mom she always knew how to cheer me up, she disiplined me enough to get a good job but not to much to where i don't like her. she made me learn from my mistakes. now that i am out of the house we go out to lunch ever week and talk about how my little sis is doing and about our jobs. i love my mom more than anything!!!!
2007-02-15 08:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, is MOM upside down...That's my mom...She gave me everything she could give me growing up. Don't mean material items I mean the need to have things. Morels, Concious, Feelings, Laughter, Right and Wrongs, REAL Love, taught me Consequences of my actions, taught me to be slow to speak and quick to listen and slow to anger, and so much more. So many things that kids now days are missing out on. My mother done without many times to give to me and my 3 brothers. Didn't know back then, but as we grew older we heard the stories. In all her ups and downs with Hepatitis C and Cirrohosis she never stopped saying it's going to be alright. I believe God hears all prayers, and HE did. I am blessed to still have my mother and still be able to see her daily and talk to her daily. I swore growing up I would never do my kids the things she done me..GUESS WHAT? I did... And I am always being told how wonderful my daughters are and how precious they are to people..I love and cherish my relationship with my mom...
Many times my mother gives more than her share of advise to me in regards to my teenage daughters. But I let her say what she needs to say and I then make my own decision on how to handle the situation. And my mother respects my decesions, may not agree with them all the time but does respect them. My girls are now 19 and 16, and I have been blessed. They have rebelled in some things, but they know upfront before anything else that I love them and no actions from them will change that love. I have rules, my 19 doesn't even date alone yet, she comes to me with her boyfriends and they have to meet me first and she will ask my opinion of him after he has left. She doesn't always understand when I say I have flags about him...I just don't know...And when I say that she keeps her guard up so she can be ready for anything. I have a great relationship with both my daughters, we honestly talk about everything. They know they can come to me and I will listen and I have the right as MOM to say WHAT? but they know I love them...Sit down with your teenager and talk to them. Let them know your always there and your love is always firm. Reassure them that you will not stop loving them for wrong doing, but your also not going to accept it and punishment will follow.. I again have been unbelievably blessed...
I have to say, as the Mother here you have a right to say anything you think is best for your kids. They don't have to like it and when they mature and start having kids of their own they will look back and say Gosh Mom was right. My kids know, under my roof, under my rules. There is no questioning that. My 19 year is in collge and I pay for that, so I can say yes to this or no to that. She knows that and respects my position as Mother. I believe your missing a key element in ya'lls relationship, and that might be the Respect Key...My girls know everything I do I do for them and for the best of them. My mother has 150% of my respect for all she done for me as a child and still as a adult raising my own family...Good Luck
2007-02-15 08:39:09 · answer #8 · answered by tmjf461 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom isnt the best mom in the world, by far
2007-02-15 07:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom is the best because she introduced me to my lord and savior Jesus Christ.
2007-02-15 15:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by shefixescars 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋