I took my Valentine date out last night and as soon as we got a
table at the club her good friend (who was not on a date) came
over to our table and they proceeded to engage in girl talk for
the next hour and a half ???
I tried to play it off and be nice to her friend but I think it was the
height of rudeness for her friend to do that. My girl and I have been
dating for a year and I know she is comfortable with me but I feel it was on her to say to her friend 'let's talk later' or something.
Since I didn't want any trouble on V Day I said nothing to my girl.
Shouldn't she have helped me out on this and told her friend to leave ??
2007-02-15 07:48:44 · 26 answers · asked by John 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe she didn't realize it was bothering u because u made no signs that it was. talk to her, if u guys have been together this long then u can communicate very well obviously. just talk to her and explain ur not mad about it...ur just annoyed that she would do that to u on valentines day. good luck
2007-02-15 07:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by chickenbuttoch2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she didn't think much of it like you did, I think you should have hinted at her friend by saying something like you two are there to spend some time alone, of course that could have evolved into a full scale argument later so I don't know what would have been right to do, guess it depends on how your girlfriend is. I think your making too much of this situation and I would try to get over it and not be furious. You still took her out and spent time together right?
2007-02-15 15:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea that was kind of rude she should have got the friends phone number and called her back later. Thats what i would have done instead of interrupting the already planned evening. Talk to her about your dissapointment in the situation and tell her that you feel a bit hurt that you went through the trouble to make the evening special. I kinda going through a similar situation. I spent a lot of time and thought making this coupon book for my boyfriend for valentines day..just the thought that counted and i got him some candy and a dvd he wanted...and it made my heart sink when he said "sorry baby i didnt have time to buy you anything" that hurt. What i took from that was "i didnt have time for you" and thats what hurt, we're still trying to get over it...im sure i eventually will for making it a really crappy valentines day..but hey i guess we all just have to eventually get over stuff and move on.
2007-02-15 15:55:11 · answer #3 · answered by magickitty0621 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, absolutely. I'd be pissed off too. Even if it was not V Day.. Totally rude of friend. I mean, anything over a 5 minute interuption would be too much. Hour and a half? I think I would have gotten up and left them together...
I would talk to her about it. Without anger and as tactfully as possible, but if she doesn't admit it was rude, she aint good enough to keep. At least I wouldn't.
A~
2007-02-15 15:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by BigMac2xk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you had said something at the time instead of being a wuss then you could have got her to get rid of the friend and enjoyed the rest of the night. You can say things in a tactful way which wouldn't have caused "trouble". If you let someone walk over you then they will see nothing wrong in the way they behave.
2007-02-15 15:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was rude of the friend to barge in... and yes your gf should have had the sensitivity to suggest they talk later.
That said, I'm not sure you were obligated to listen to girltalk for an hour and a half on your valentine's date. It would have been perfectly acceptable to say "Thanks for saying hello. I'd like to spend some time with my date."
2007-02-15 15:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by selena n 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that's messed up. What is wrong with people?! Valentine's Day or not, that's rude. You can tell your girlfriend that you would never interrupt someone's meal to do the kind of chatting that can wait an hour...or til the next day. I'm sorry, dude. For the most part, girls are f*cking retarded. But I really think you should talk to her about it.
2007-02-15 15:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely she should have told her friend "Later. 'Bye."
But you should have spoken up when it became apparent that the friend wasn't going to make a noise like a hoop and roll away on her own. "Hey, [insert friend's name here], not to be rude, but this is supposed to be a romantic Valentine's dinner for TWO..." (loaded pause and direct stare at friend, softened with slight smile, and pregnant silence while friend gathers purse, wrap and manners and rolls away.)
Have you asked your girlfriend why she didn't give the friend the shove, or at least a polite hint to go away?
2007-02-15 15:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right. It was a special night for the 2 of you. A friendly hell, some small talk for a few minutes, and then your girlfriend should have told her this was a special date. You can shift the majority of the blame on you know who.
2007-02-15 15:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i totally agree with you! Valentines day is supposed to be a special day for couples. it was rude of her friend to do that and if it was me i would have told her that it wasn't a good time and would talk to her tomorrow or sumthin!
But maybe her friend was lonely because she didn't have a date for v day? But it was still rude
2007-02-15 15:55:18 · answer #10 · answered by sgreenslade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋