We've been together 2 1/2 years and love each other very much. He's in love with me but I just dont feel that I am in love with him. What should I do?
2007-02-15 07:48:37 · 19 answers · asked by genuinegrl_00 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I love him, I don't think I am in love with him. There is a difference in those two things. That's why we have still stayed together so long.
2007-02-15 08:29:05 · update #1
Imagine what your life would be like if he weren't your boyfriend and he didn't love you. If you don't mind what you're feeling, it's time to leave. If it saddens you, stay with him. Give this little test to yourself every so often and it'll let you know exactly where you stand at all times.
2007-02-15 07:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Eddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you're going through...I have this special guy friend that I've been dating off and on for several years now, and I feel this same way. I love him as a person and a friend, but nothing more, and I don't feel any chemistry. As hard as it is, I think you should tell him how you feel...he will be hurt, but not as much as he will be if you two stick it out longer and he finds out then that you're only settling for him. Never settle! I've just realized in my similar situation that I can't go on this way, and that it's better to feel lonely temporarily (and it will be only temporarily, love will find you again!) than it is to be totally unhappy with someone you're not in love with.
2007-02-15 09:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As scary as it may be, you have to tell him how you feel. Even though you may feel sad it will only be worse if you don't tell him. Find a way to tell him what you think and just move on. Don't lead him on into thinking you love him. I am confused why you said you two love each other very much but you don't feel your in love with him.
2007-02-15 07:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by DoctorE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not in love with him anymore then u should end the relationship. I am a guy and this girl I dated for four months I guess kind of lost interest in me. But instead of telling me she just kept dragging it out, and not comin around and eventually quit talking to me. That made me fell like crap. So if you don't fell the same as him it would be best if u just told him now. That would make it hurt less to end it now than to let him get even deeper. Hope that might help:)
2007-02-15 08:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by Bubby S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
G,
I know it's hard to let someone down, but if you care for this person even a bit then you have to let them know. not only is it not fair to you but it is not fair to the other person. You should sit down and talk with him and ask him how he feels about your relationship and where he feels it is heading. At this time you need to let him know that you don't feel the same and that you think it would be a good idea for you to part ways. Don't keep hanging on, I promise the moment you get it out you will feel better.
2007-02-15 08:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't Love him... Why are you still in the relationship? Its been 2 1/2 years... don't waste anymore years, playing around. Seriously... move on!
2007-02-15 08:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him! The sooner the better!
It's the only fair thing to do so that you both can move on. He will be hurt, yes, but he'll get over it and be stronger for it. That is, of course, if he doesn't totally lose his mind...lol
2007-02-15 08:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, move on, of course.
Life is short. There are LOTS of men out there.
Think ahead, if someone told you that you would spend five more years of your young life, with this guy that would lead nowhere, or worse, that you would marry out of habit or comfort or guilt....what would you say to that right now?
2007-02-15 07:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by WriterMom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him and move on. It is more hurtful to him for you to be in the relationship if you are not in love with him. Be honest and end it so he can find someone to love him the way he needs to be loved.......and you too....trust me
2007-02-15 08:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just at least let him know what you are feeling when you do it....theres nothing worse (from his point of view) than not telling him the absolute truth. Get closure so everyone, not just YOU, can move on.
2007-02-15 07:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by MillerTyme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋