My mom dosnt work, she married my step dad for money and she sits home all day and watches tv. The house is a dump and is dirty than some trailer homes.. I cant even have my girlfriend over its too embaracing, I'm pretty sure anyone who saw, would consider my parents and house unacceptable for me to live in and with.
2007-02-15 07:47:43 · 8 answers · asked by maxerr04 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have my sympathy. That is a shame. Maybe your mom is depressed. Women who are depressed will sometimes find a way to escape - - - which sounds like what she has done by watching TV all the time. I'd like to make a suggestion, because I know you'd like to bring your girlfriend over sometime. Set a goal of about 2-3 weeks and take 1 room at a time and start really cleaning. Ask your mom for money to go buy some cleaning supplies - - - Mr. Clean, Lysol, mop & bucket, furniture polish, scrubbing sponges . . . . everything you can think of. Your mom might ask you what you are doing, and then tell her you are embarrassed about the living conditions. Maybe, just maybe your mom will feel guilty and help you out. But at the same time, it will be great experience for you as well because once you are out on your own, you'll need to clean your own place up. And when you are married, you'll be a better husband if you help your wife out too.
Before the 3 weeks are up, you'll probably have to go back and re-tidy some rooms and the bathroom needs to be cleaned weekly, but that's just how it is.
2007-02-15 08:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah yes, you must be one of the millions of teens who think you walk on water. The truth is that you should be grateful that he has money, whether that's the only reason they're together or not, because until you actually get a job that makes enough for you to move out of the house that a$$hole that you hate so much is putting a roof over your head and food in your stomach. And have you ever considered that maybe you should be doing something to help keep the house clean instead of sitting on your butt all day in front of the computer?
2007-02-15 16:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by D.L. Miller 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am going to go out on a limb and suggest that maybe your environment is depressing you and making everything look darker than it truly is. it sounds like you have a good girlfriend (or you wouldn't care about bringing her home) and i hope you also have a good network of friends to turn to. i must confess though, it sounds like you are old (and mature) enough to realize that you need to start parenting yourself. that means you need to make plans and prepare for the future. take responsibility for your own space and keep it clean and orderly. pitch in where you can to help others (service will help you feel better), but don't take on your mother's responsibilities - it will only allow her to continue to avoid reality. if you feel truly abused, talk to a teacher, counselor, parent of friend or other adult. but if you are just feeling picked on, let it go and spend your energy on things you can do something about.
sorry this is so long, but I have truly been there, and I am happy to say it can all work out!!
2007-02-15 16:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by Catie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would probably be considered neglect according to Child Protective Services. If it is a huge issue talk to an adult in your life that can help you. Teachers know how to contqact CPS with problems. The only thing with that is that you could be taken away from your family until they get their act together. You have to consider the consequences and decide what you can live with.
2007-02-15 16:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by Evie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could clean the house some too...if you get married, your wife's not gonna do everything for you!! there's not really much you can do except take soem initiative. being a teenager is about learning responsibility and preparing to live out in the world on your own, maybe your mom in some weird way is preparing you for it....then again maybe she's not, but you can't really do anything about it unless they mistreat you, as in abuse of any kind, or starvation, etc....a dirty house doesn't count.
2007-02-15 17:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have chores? I mean, if you want to have company, you can be responsible for cleaning too.
Can't help ya with the lazy gold-digger part, and you can call your local Family & Children Services, but they woul probably require that there be bugs, no edible food on the premises, floors/ walls caving in, her being passed out/doped up/drunk out of her skull
for them to actually do anything, and then it wouldn't be her leaving- It would probably be you.
2007-02-15 16:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude you just have to live with it. as long as they aren't abusing you. there is no law that says mom has to clean the house. you could clean it if you feel so bad about it. you'll be 18 and able to leave soon enough. until then just work hard and use them for everything you can.
2007-02-15 15:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by bartathalon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could you live with your father, or a sibling? No matter what why don't you talk to your school guidance counsellor, talking to them is confidential and they will know where to go for help if they don't have the answers. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-15 16:07:38 · answer #8 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋