I don't have a clue what my problem is. Most people say it's because I'm young (I am a teenager). I used to want a girlfriend, but it got old, and now I don't. I could not accept for example, getting a girl a gift for Valentine's Day, because I am afraid I would look funny. I would tell someone else to do it. I am afraid to show love at all. I am very unemotional, and I could never get any emotions. I view myself as a soldier, not a romance lover. I don't think I could ever get a girl, nor do I really want to. All the girls I know are taken up. No girl would ever want me, but that doesn't bother me, because I have given up looking for a girl. I could never show my love for anyone, and I don't even think I ever loved anyone or anything. I won't go to a psychologist, nor do I want to. I am not gay, but I really hate romance.
2007-02-15 07:39:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being young doesn't help, age will bring you lessons and discover more things about yourself, try having your horoscope done, I bet your personality is what it is and you can try to mould it, but to be true to yourself, you should find what it is you are passionate about and get to it, maybe you want a career, become a policeman or other heroic job can be wonderful for a person who is somewhat cold, so that you won't get attached or overly emotional over the sad or bad situations that come up in these careers. Either way, I really think you should focus on what you do love to do and not what you don't. If love finds you, it will find you and you will know it. Romance comes when you're in love. And of course, you're not. You may not have been brought up in a loving atmosphere or that you simply are not the type, maybe you're a Libra or another personality type that simply doesn't go for that stuff. Just accept who you are and find a suitable outlet for your passion, what ever it is. Best of luck. :)
2007-02-15 07:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by Destiny Palmist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, there are all kinds of reasons for you feeling this way, but only you can determine the real reason.
Have you been seriously hurt by a girl and don't want to risk being hurt again? Are you uncomfortable with yourself - making you less attractive to girls - so now you have just completely given up so that you don't feel so bad?
Are you suffering from general depression and this is only one sign?
For God's sake, you're only a teenager! So, you're not crazy in what people think is love like everyone else. Good! Maybe you'll be able to focus on things that matter and become a better person.
If there is nothing seriously emotionally wrong with you that is otherwise affecting your life, then just keep doing what you're doing. Either you'll grow out of these feelings and find a girl you like or you won't and you'll still be ok.
2007-02-15 07:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by teel2624 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were right in the second sentence of your question... You are young!! It doesn't sound like you're gay or that you've been traumatized... You're just inexperienced! It also sounds like you have some major self esteem issues...
You stay away from girls because you don't think you're good enough.
You obviously have emotions... because if you didn't care, then you wouldn't be asking for advice.
It may look like all the kids around you at school are in relationships, but look at all the other people who are not. People mature differently.
As long as you don't give up on love, you'll find it. There's no reason to rush into it while you're young.
Just work on becoming more confident in yourself!!
2007-02-15 07:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by violetmal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say no girl would ever want you it sounds as if you have poor self-esteem. But you know what, when the time is right, it will happen. If you aren't interested in a romantic relationship right now, that's fine. You will know when you are ready and then you will start looking. Some people never get married and they like it. God made us all individuals. Don't over psycho-analyze yourself. Be happy to be who you are. If you don't want a girlfriend, what's the problem? If you do want some female friends, join groups where there are female and males and you might meet some (athletic groups - volleyball is really fun, or reading groups - local books stores have them). Good luck to you and God Bless.
2007-02-15 07:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what or if there is even anything wrong w/ you, I too am a teenager and all my friends either have someone or like someone and right now I'm single and not interested in anyone as more than a friend and I'm not looking for anyone either. And I don't know you but I'm positive that there is a girl out there that will love you and you will love her you just haven't met the right one yet. Give it time we are only teenagers.
2007-02-15 07:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by m cheryl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you have been hurt in the past by someone you loved and as a result you can't truly express emotions...it is not a matter of getting a girl to like you...you need to talk to a counsler to work through this because it is NOT normal to be like that
2007-02-15 08:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. So you're just like a rock with no emotion. I don't know what to tell you. Maybe you haven't found the right person who awakes special feelings in you. I know it sounds corny but love does that to you.
2007-02-15 07:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by miley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with being by yourself? I don't see anything wrong with that. Plus, when the right girl comes into your life, it will be easier for you to open up to her. If you're not ready, then you're not ready. It's not as big of a deal as you think.
2007-02-15 07:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have some type of trauma issues. Please see a counselor. It's not natural to not feel. Not everyone is romantic , however, feelings of love, passion and caring are part of the beauty of being human. Check it out..
2007-02-15 07:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with you, you just simply don't like it, and its fine. probably better because at least you can never have your heart ripped to pieces.. or maybe you just havne't found a girl worth your love yet, and you dont have to look for her she'll jsut come
2007-02-15 07:43:47 · answer #10 · answered by brittaboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋