Who would have thought a little girls uncle (if he did ) could do that to his own kith and kin?

Question

or to anyone come to that, but how on earth could you guess that within your own family unit lurks a paedophile waiting to pounce.

Would you have an inkling that this sort person lived in your midst?

No that is the trouble we bury our heads in the sand all too often and then the same thing happens again and again. No I will not ask nice questions. Do you not care.

Opal Fayed..you can read the papers can't you.

Answer 1

I'm as shocked about this thing as all of you are, but I find it really sad that so many of you say that you trust nobody now. These things are terrible, but they have always happened and it is a sad fact is that children, who grow up in these conditions are much more likely to become violent and abusive themselves in comparison to "normal" children. So we as a society must make sure that these children - if they make it - receive all our support and good, thorough counselling, but once they're screwed up teenagers, who wants them? There is a huge shortage of foster parents!

I'm an open, easy-going person and I would feel awful, if I would turn into a suspicious, over-careful mother because of this. In my opinion it is important to be aware of these issues, but trust our common sense and gut feelings and do not to let these incidents rule our lifes.

Answer 2

I have to say that anyone who isn't aware of this going on in our society hasn't been paying much attention. It happens and it happens far too frequently. I don't think there's much guessing involved in uncovering it though. There are signs. There are indications. Unfortunately I think that the folks at cps or social services don't know what to look for or they are busy looking at other things. Like the police that pursue the pot smokers and ignore the meth heads. They are easier to catch and not quite so dangerous. It's easier to bang on someone's door and take the children because there is alleged drug use in the house than it is to get a child to talk about what's going on in the home, Especially if that child knows that what they say might get Uncle Fred or even Daddy in trouble.
Lord knows I watched very closely as my children grew. I kept the lines of communication open and let them know they could talk to me about absolutely anything! They still can and do. They didn't come through their childhoods unscathed, none of us do. We have been able to talk about and work through their traumas (which thank heaven were relatively small in comparison) I hope they remember when they have children of their own to be vigilant and always available.

Answer 3

Who would have thought anyone could do that do anybody? Unfortunately, having worked with them there are people like that out there and often show no remorse. You are not supposed to be judgemental but sometimes there is just that 'gut' feeling about someone living close by although more often it is the person you would suspect least that is the one who carries out these awful things. I know that most young parents are excellent role models to their children but with a minority of parents often with their language, company they keep, treatment of their children, bad habits etc etc children are brought up in a world where they don't know right from wrong. Thankfully the case in question is to the extreme but young people do some awful things simply because to them it is a way of life.

Answer 4

I don't find that fact shocking at all. Statistically, almost all paedophiles prey on victims within their own families. I remember reading not long ago that around 90 per cent of victims are abused by their own fathers, grandfathers, uncles, brothers, cousins, or close friends of the family who are considered 'almost-family'.

The mysterious stranger who lurks around waiting to harm children unknown to him is virtually a myth. There are some very high-profile exceptions to this, but they were given a lot of coverage because they were such rare cases. Generally speaking, sickos prefer abusing those who know and trust them because it increases their chances of getting away with it and repeating their actions another time, and that goes for adult rape victims as well as victims of paeodophiles.

Answer 5

Sometimes after you find out about something like that you can think back and say that some incident seemed suspicious but usually we don't know that our family, friends, neighbors are pedophiles, thieves, child abusers, wife abusers, etc. We need to keep our eyes and ears open so that we can pick up on signals that are obvious, because after awhile there are definite signs, usually coming from the people being abused and then you have to look for the source. Good luck and God Bless and be with your nieces and family.

Answer 6

I know what you mean, I hope the sick bstd gets caught in prison by men with kids!! I also hope he rots in hell!!
My husband used to work with a guy who was jailed for abusing his girlfriend's daughter for 7 years. He got 18 months and served little over half of his time. Needless to say he moved away from the area!!!
My husband was sickened by the whole thing. He had no idea! But then who does?
The sickos should be left in a room alone with the child's parents . I know what I would do if anyone as much as looked at my kids the wrong way!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

I was totally freaked out by this. Guess it's worse because I have a daughter. I was also horrified by the fact he's only 21. How can someone so young already be so vile? It beggars belief ...

[I know I'm already assuming his guilt - and I hope, for his mother's sake, we're all wrong - but sadly I suspect not.]

Answer 8

this needs to be said and i hope and pray i never have too suffer this to happen in my family i dont think that the pervert would ever live to see jail i would because i would kill the sick b******d.. this crime should be punished by the only means to stop it even though hanging them is too easy a way out, at least then he would never have the chance to do it to some other innocent, enough bleeding hearts and human rights, these people cant be classed as human and should be put down like the mad dogs that they are..... our children must be safe ..

Answer 9

They are NOT going to make it obvious but there are some signs like being overly nice to the child, being overly concerned with the child's life, etc...I always suspect the worst then start looking around at that point to find out the truth it is easier that way.

Answer 10

All paedophiles belong to someones family,the trouble is most mothers who think there may be something a bit iffy about their child will protect them and turn a blind eye,would you like to believe one of your kids was a potential threat to a child?